You’d think bisexuals would have the world at their feet. But no.
According to a new poll by sex toy purveyors Adam and Eve, practically half of adults say the idea of dating a bisexual makes them squirmy and uncomfortable.
The data comes from a sex survey conducted by the company, who polled 1,000 Americans.
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What they found was slightly less than half of the participants (47%) would not want to enter into a relationship with someone who identified as bisexual.
According to Pink News, 35% said they’d be into the idea, and 19% are undecided.
35% of the respondents said they were open to it and 19% said they were undecided. More men than women were open to the idea (39% of men, 31% of women). 23% of women and 15% of men were uncertain.
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So we have to ask: Would you be willing to date someone who identified as bisexual? And if not, why not? Take our poll and share your thoughts in the comments section below.
Rimminit
Absolutely!!! ‘cuz the fact is most of us ARE bi-sexual!!!
We settle down with someone we love, respect, and have potential of having a life with.
kent25
Lol Spare us the Bull crap
Hank
Not, cuz bi men give the feeling they are more unfaithful than average.
I read a story of a bisexual guy who’s dating a woman, and he has meetings with several men. He is so cynical that says he has to betray her by necessity, and that she would never understand his need.
Jbris
H@Hank: most women i know wouldnt understand. It sucks, and i think its why the beat culture is still thriving where i am from.
But i would definitely date a buy guy, im all for sexual fluidity. I consider myself 90% gay.
Xzamilio
I wouldn’t mind… hell, he could even bring in a woman if she was down. Nothing wrong with a devil’s threesome, and not that I would fuck a woman ever again, but I wouldn’t mind watching.
Thispurpose
It would be interesting to see what a gay based poll would conclude. Since this poll was conducted by a store predominantly frequented by straight people I think we could conclude that most of the responders were straight.
Aromaeus
What a stupid thing to ask.
surreal33
Hell YES!! Bi men infinitely better in the sack!!
Brian
Most men are capable of sexual activity with both men and women but women find it threatening. It’s because such men are a form of male power. Male power destroys woman power.
Woman power – often referred to as girl power – is based on the idea that only women should be accepted for their bisexuality, even if it’s fake. Only women should be allowed to cross-dress, not men. In America we see these double standards all over the place.
Me2
Only if he’s single and can commit to one over the other. If not, then FWB is the most that we can be… and that may not work out either.
Hussain-TheCanadian
I find the thought of the man I love, can potentially, fall in love with a woman so threatening, its really upsetting to me.
She has one thing that I don’t have, and that’s the power to produce children. I don’t know why in our western culture, the myth of men not wanting children, is so prevalent. They do, even the gay ones, and that is something we men cannot produce.
I don’t know about you all, but I find that threatening – That’s the only thing I fear from dating a Bisexual man.
kent25
not True i’m gay and never wanted children, and still don’t
Brian
@Hussain-TheCanadian:Interesting point.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@Hussain-TheCanadian: I don’t want children. And who would need a child when they have you ;p My milk bags are full and leaking at the thought of breast feeding you!
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
These prevalent attitudes is why it’s so difficult (not harder..but not easier..than being gay…just differently, uniquely difficult) being bisexual.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: And the fact that such a benign statement potentially will rub so many gay men up the wrong way..into a froth of self-righteoulsy blinkered competitive oppression.. is testament to that.
broadshoulder
@surreal33: not in my experience. They even share s reluctance to kiss. Bisexuals are more furtive.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Bisexuals are such a disparate group — literally all across the scale — so different from each other in their desires and how they choose to express them –much more so than monosexuals — that it’s particularly stupid to generalise about them.
ppp111
@Brian:
I imagine most of the people surveyed were probably straight women. I can’t imagine any straight guy saying he would feel uncomfortable dating a bisexual woman. That’s like a jackpot for most straight guys. Anyway, I think it was an article from the Huffington Post that said the one thing that would turn many women off was a man’s bisexuality. I’d like to say I was surprised but I’m not.
ppp111
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID:
I remember reading somewhere that when most gay men first come out they tell everyone they’re bisexual (think tom daley). As time passed, many of these men later said they were 100% gay. One guy said I guess he wanted his family to hold out hope that he might still get together with a woman. Myself, I never claimed to be bisexual only because I knew what I always wanted but that’s just me.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@ppp111: Yup that’s sneaky, lying, untrustworthy, GAY men for ya! Lol
Brian
“Bisexual” is such an awkward word. It makes you seem as if you are sexually aroused by both a woman and man at the very same instant. It makes you seem to be a person who enjoys threeesomes.
The other huge problem with the word “bisexual” is that the first syllable “bi” literally means two halves”. It’s misleading because it suggests you are half attracted to women and half attracted to men, which ia actually quite rare.
Porn hasn’t helped the situation. Porn is full of acts of prostitution pretending to be about sex. Threesomes or moresomes where there is male-male interaction but not female – feamale is filed under “bisexual”
Billy Budd
I have indeed dated bisexual men and it was awesome even though most of them were exclusively tops and not versatile as I prefer. I firmly believe that bisexuality represents the future for human sexuality and that it should be fostered, encouraged and celebrated.
kernowcraig
Im a bi guy. Was in a relationship for a little over 10 years with a woman. She knew I was bi and told me once, the only real issue I she had was not being able to compete with another guy if I was “Window shopping” with another woman it was different, the playing field was level. I could see her point. Whatever your sexuality or attraction, in my opinion, if you’re in a relationship you should be monogamous.
Brian
@kernowcraig: Yes, it’s true that women find male homosexual attraction to be a competitive threat if it exists in a woman’s husband or boyfriend. The worst thing about this is that women use their fear to justify the stigmatization of male homosexual desire.
There’s a bit of an anti-male gender war going on, and it is concentrated on reducing the power of male sexuality, including male bisexuality, in ordinary, everyday men.
@Billy Budd: Male bisexuality has existed since time began. Recently, it has been fashionable to deny its existence. I partly blame feminists, female prostitutes and their gay male enablers. All 3 groups are determined to give women privileges by allowing women to exploit double standards, such as the bisexual double standard.
Brian
Keep in mind that a woman fears the male’s strong and constant sex drive. If she sees male homosexual desires being expressed verbally by her boyfriend or husband, it reinforces the idea that his sex drive is powerful.
Heterosexual marriage is partly an attempt by women to keep men away from sexual expression towards other men.
Feminism represents a woman’s attempt to glamorize female bisexuality – even if it’s fake – at the expense of male bisexuality. It’s a bisexuality-based gender war.
jag4313
Yes, I have and never had an issue with them also being attracted to females.
Mo Bro
As a man who’s dated both men and women, I can state that women are much, much more threatened by a man’s bisexuality than a man is by a woman’s—it’s not even close. Men find bisexuality kind of hot while chicks find it kind of icky, so one must be diligent in divulging certain aspects of one’s desires.
Brian
@Mo Bro: I totally agree with you. There definitely is a bisexual double standard, and women are partly to blame. I refer to it as a bisexuality-based gender war against men.
Jack Meoff
This is such a reductive post. The comments here are laughable.
etseq
I’ve known a few bisexual men who only dated and had sex with men basically in political and social solidarity with gay men – they didn’t hide or deny their attraction to women but were more than satisfied with restricting themselves to just men. They recognized that the corrosive effects of heterosexual privilege and were highly critical of most bi men who would only engage with the gay community for sex on the down low while living as a heterosexuals married to women at most other times.
Bisexual men can so easily become gay uncle toms…
etseq
Also, Adam and Eve is a sex toy company, not a social science or public opinion firm but you would never know that thanks to the PR blitz that promotes this junk science.
Masc Pride
Yes, yes, God yes. Bisexual men understand other bisexual men w/o saying a word. Plus, you have to practically talk a gay guy down from a ledge if he suspects you have any attraction to any woman (even though he knew you were bisexual upfront). Too much insecurity and melodrama.
redcarpet30
I have. As long as they don’t tell me the gory details of their lady adventures and respect my gold star gay status (and intent to keep it that way) I’m cool.
bma83
I have to admit that my ideal boyfriend and husband is not bisexual. I’m gay. I want a gay mate. And frankly, I wouldn’t find his attraction to women attractive.
gayhope1990
Yes of course if he’s nice,handsome and not a mama’s boy.
Heywood Jablowme
“Would You Date Someone Who Identifies As Bisexual?”
No – mostly because I do not have a Ph.D. in psychology. It’s hard enough trying to figure out regular gay guys without trying to figure out bisexuals.
Seems way too complicated – I’ll pass.
Sukhrajah
@Hussain-TheCanadian:
Your thought upholds one logic, but fails to grasp the underlying, and more important core.
I can ‘choose’ my partner. Per the stereoptype, per se, I am equally attracted to both. I also want children, and a marriage (or, being from divorced parents – a relationship and stability) in which to facilitate the most beneficial environment of raising said children.
If, my underlying goal – and here you are reducing me, and my Bisexual Brothers to the definition of your invalid, prejudiced, and frankly out of proportion, and outdated fear; then logically we will choose the best partner to suit that task. A woman is not necessarily that partner. That depends on so many factors – and if, as your moniker applies to be true – the financial outlook might be better if indeed I married a man (as Women are not financially compensated as well as men, on average). As the conception of every child would be a choice; the family could be planned and births staggered to produce greater support and lesser strain on finances (college planning, major expenses – do you know what it is like to pay for two graduations, two 18th birthdays, and two moves to college – at the same time?). In a modern, Western Nation – where the right to marry has been established for same-sex couples; family planning will also follow suit.
In the above I reduced the perspective same-sex partner to just one integer – his ability to provide a greater income. That is a much more real threat to a potential marriage than a fear that will (in 99% of the cases) never be realized.
Now, as a Bisexual – it’s frankly insulting. It puts faith, chemistry, love, attraction, emotional connection, intimacy, and beauty – and every infernal combination of how I love someone – and reduced it, sifts it, sickles it to one fear. Get over your fear. It’s miniscule – in proportion to all of the other things that you should actually be worrying about with us.
Case in point – to the Gay community – we’re all just confused and closeted (as either closeted gay men, or closeted straight men who just have a ‘fetish’). To the Straight World – we’re just ‘seeking attention’ and can’t keep in our pants. We just the shit beat out of us just the same, we fight just the same, we have our rights taken away – just the same, and then – when it comes to finding a home – we’re not welcome enough to be ourselves fully in either zone.
If I found a Man, that made me feel at Home – that’s where I would build it. No Woman would ever be able to stop Me, or It. It’s that simple – if you love him, for him – and not for a tiny fear that he will likely never think about, or even imagine – unless you brought it up, and then – watch as he recoils in the thought that you think that about him.
ErikO
Yes, I have only had actual relationships/partnerships with other bisexual men and women. There’s one gay man who I would have a partnership with but we both know it’s not going to happen and have been friends for decades.
MMDD
Most bisexual guys are gonna settle down with a woman. Everybody knows this, and this is likely a key reason why many gay men know that dating a bi guy runs the risk of being a waste of time if they’re wanting something more substantial. Yes, it’s a generality, I know, but that doesn’t make it untrue. And of course, most does not mean all. I have known some bi guys who were in committed relationships with other guys. But almost all the ones I’ve met are with women.
Bisexual men have a desire for p*ssy that we gay guys simply will never be able to wrap our heads around. And yes, that’s threatening for sure because like it or not, p*ssy controls this world, and God knows it controls the overwhelming majority of the men on this planet. Now, gay guys exclusively have a desire for c*ck and/or man ass, and I totally get that because I feel the same way. So there’s that compatibility issue that makes gay men much more attractive to me. I never have to worry about my husband desiring something that I could never be able to give him.
But I would never say never. I have known some bi guys who swing much more toward men, so I might feel more comfortable with a bi guy like that if he were unquestionably comfortable being in a relationship with another man. But my preference is for gay men. Nothing wrong with having preferences. Every person should feel the freedom to date whoever he or she feels most comfortable with.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Lack of periods and PMS…menopause…pregnancy worries..free from constrictive expectations of what is appropriate to your sex role generally — your role as a parenting in particular…completely different and never fully knowable sexual disparate “operating systems” and desires etc etc
That’s just scratching the surface.
There are many reasons why a bisexual man — up to and including a predominantly a het-leaning one …even one who wants children — might choose a man over a woman.
Chris
Yes; I have before and I would again. Like everyone else, they seek love, understanding, and affection. The plumbing usually follows.
junk4sts
No, I wouldn’t knowingly date a bi guy. IMHO a true “bisexual” would never be happy with just one partner, in the same way as a true gay man would not be happy with a woman.
Bi partners are fine for hook-ups, but not for dating.
I think that a person who is truly bi-sexual really can’t get what he needs from just one person, if he can, then he really isn’t a true “bi-sexual” but is instead a “physical bi-sexual” he is one who is able to enjoy another person body without caring about the plumbing. Or in other words he “just likes sex”.
A ‘physical bi-sexual’ can, I think, easily have a long term partner whom he is truly happy with. this is because long-term relationships are about much more than sex.
So ultimately I guess it’s how you define ‘bi-sexual’ if you define it in a way that is like our understanding of “gay” and “straight”, then, no bi guys for me.
Atomicrob
I have dated bisexuals . . . And, it’s all about them. They use their alleged bisexuality to rationalize their relationship/sexual partner choices at the expense of those they are dating. They are basically polymorphously perverse narcissists.
kent25
NO! Not a chance in hell, they are confused and need mental help.
that’s why all of them are in therapy. Think about it who want to date another Aaron Hernandez and Omar Mateen ,
kent25
They like having sex with men and turn around and give these poor women all types of STD’s. Those women didn’t get those diseases by sleep with men who don’t sleep with women. They got it from men who like to swing both ways. They are Horny Creatures, They can’t keep there clothes on