A former contestant on ABC show The Bachelorette has opened up about being bisexual. Josh Seiter appeared in Season 11 of the show, which aired in 2015.
Now aged 35, he talked to Instinct, who asked him when he knew he was bisexual.
“Unlike some people, my awareness of my bisexuality manifested later in life,” he said. “I think there are a number of reasons for this. I was homeschooled from preschool until college by parents who were born again Christians. We belonged to a sort of Christian cult of other homeschooled children, where we had to follow pretty draconian rules about what we could and couldn’t do, say, and think.”
He says his upbringing played a big part in him not acknowledging his sexuality sooner.
“I always knew as an early teen I was different sexually, I just don’t think I had the vocabulary to articulate what that difference was. I don’t think the vocabulary ITSELF even existed. Now, with hindsight, I can see clearly that I’ve been starkly aware of my bisexuality and attraction to men and women since at least college.”
Asked why he chose to come out now, he pointed to several reasons. He has undergone therapy, he now cares less about what other people thought about him, and he realized the importance of speaking out to help combat stigma. He also recently entered into a relationship with a “close male friend”.
Those factors together, “resulted in me really wanting to be open to the world about who I am and how I identify. And that’s what brought me here.”
According to TV Shows Ace, Seiter’s friend is named David and works as an “exotic dancer”. The men have been an item since last November.
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Escort work
Asked if he was coming out to extend his 15 minutes of fame, Seiter suggested he can’t control how people react to his news. He just wants to live in his truth.
“I have extremely thick skin. I’ve been called every name in the book, almost all of them false. I’ve been called a prostitute, a clout chaser, a fame whore, wanna-be, reality TV whore, you name it. I can’t stress how little people’s opinion of me matters. Losing my father taught me that unless something affects my ability to see or communicate with my family members and loved ones, it simply doesn’t matter. My therapy has taught me the same thing. I might prefer to be liked, but if I’m not, that’s neither awful nor terrible, and life will go on.”
Instinct also asked Seiter asked about previously shaking his booty as a dancer at a male revue club in Chicago and rumors of escort work under the name ‘Andrew Dean’. He clarified it was only ever for women.
“I was a male companion for women with the escorting site Cowboys4Angels, I have never been one for men.”
Check out some more photos below of Seiter from his Instagram account.
dbmcvey
Great for him! He won’t care what I think but I don’t care for the tattoos.
dwick
I’m sure he’s had more than a few beards over the years-whether he realized it or not
Donston
No one knows his journey, his struggles, his dimensions, his motivations, where he is in the gender, sexual, affection, romantic, emotion, commitment spectrum. However, he’s a queer who was a sex worker for years but claims he’s never had male clients. I don’t know why he thinks saying that makes him look any better. It either shows that he’s lying or that he doesn’t view women as much more than people to get money from, hook up with and/or boost his ego. While it’s obvious that a significant amount of people who go on these dating shows are not looking for “love” and substantial relationships. They’re looking for noteriety and/or validation. But look luck to him and his significant other.
Diplomat
He didn’t say anything made him “look better”. Where do you get this claptrap? You’re gobbledygook claims, well you get the picture ….. back to therapy kiddo.
Matthewnow
This article is worthless with out full frontal photos. Kidding. Let him be who he is..
CatholicXXX
Good for him.
Wasn’t it revealed that these shows hire gay bachelors to play a role?
ddmtl
Finally confirms that a man WITH hair is much better looking!
SDR94103
tattoos are gross.
SFMike
I guess he feels bad tattoos make the man. Such a shame to graffiti a great body.
Huron132
He’s an interesting person. I have a friend who was home schooled as well. The patterns of Josh’s upbringing is similar i,f not exactly the same as my friend. A person who is school smart and reckless street smart. So I understand what he says and how he has lived. I hope he has found a partner who will be understanding and patient. My friend finally became himself in his mid to late 30’s. I say good luck. OH! BTW I preferred the hairy Josh!
Magnus1999
Waaaay overboard with the ink. But he looks sexy with a shirt on.
FreddieW
I think they sandblast walls with that much graffiti. The contours look nice, though.
Inthequeer
Ugh, SMH at Queerty …you guys need to do better research before posting an article promoting this guy. Once a year he “comes out” on his IG to get publicity for his OF, then later on claims he was hacked when he starts dating women again. He is textbook gay-baiting, and timing it with Pride month solely to get more followers. Google the threads on him, Joshua Andrew, before publishing stuff like this that takes away from real coming out stories. Plenty of screenshots and convos about of his scammy ways since 2019.
While you’re at it, google Josh Seiter and Bryan Hawn “Dear Black People” video, huge history of blatant racist rants. Really suprised you guys published this and giving this guy more press he’s so desperately seeking on the backs of the lgbt community…there’s a reason his IG comments have been turned off for a year.
MrMichaelJ
Hate to break the news to all but anyone who has seen even 5 seconds of this reality program realize these guys are single for one particular reason….
btw, can you guys just stop whining about tattoos?? Give me a flying flipping break. #NoOneCares