OK, this is kinda awkward.
“It’s embarrassing to write this because I know it’s super taboo,” a young man by the name of Kenny writes for Gay Pop Buzz. “Since last year, I’ve had a really bad crush on my uncle.”
Kenny is 21 and lives in what he calls “a Podunk community” in rural Iowa.
To make a long story short, he didn’t even know this uncle existed until a year ago when his mom, while researching her family tree, did a DNA test to locate distance relatives and found out had a half-brother she never knew about.
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“Apparently, my grandfather cheated on my grandmother. He knocked up some woman (I don’t know who she is) sometime when he was in his late 40’s,” Kenny explains.
Enter Rusty. Kenny’s 6′, 36-year-old, long-lost uncle from Nebraska.
Rusty recently took a bus to Iowa to meet his newfound family. The first time Kenny laid eyes on him, he says, “I just about died.”
“I was instantly attracted to him. I’m just going to come out and say this – Uncle Rusty is f-ing hot. I mean really hot.”
The next day, Kenny caught a glimpse of Rusty without his shirt and it drove him even crazier.
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“When you are 21-years old and closeted, seeing a hairy chested, built guy take his shirt off kind of leaves an impression on you,” he writes. “As I put my head on the pillow that night, I couldn’t shake that image from my head.”
After Rusty’s visit, Kenny says he found one of his uncle’s shirts in the laundry hamper. He put it on so he could “smell him on me.”
“He’s really everything I’ve always liked in a man,” Kenny confesses. “He’s masculine and rugged and genuinely has a nice personality.”
If only Rusty weren’t his uncle!
“I wish I didn’t have these fantasies about him but I do,” Kenny says. “I don’t think my uncle is gay. If he is, I’m really f-ed!”
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Well alright then. Let’s just try to legitimize incest and tie to to gays because of one person’s fantasy.
No, please don’t. It would be no fun then!
This one I get, only because it’s an uncle he didn’t know about until recently, so that familial bond isn’t there, more or less. If we were talking about some crap like he was there from when he was a baby until now, that would be gross. But, get it out of your head, dude…. aside from your uncle likely being straight, he’s your UNCLE!!!! That’s all kinds of levels of wrong.
Alan down in Florida
In the words of Mick Jagger (if y’all are old enough to know who he is, “You can’t always get what you want.”
It’s not a matter of legitimizing incest. We are attracted to people we connect with. Our family members are a lot like us; it’s called Genetic Sexual Attraction The reason most of us don’t feel this attraction is something called the Westermarck Effect; people who grow up knowing their family learn that those people are off limits. That is, the incest taboo is something we learn. When people meet a long lost family member they often experience really strong attraction.
Honestly in this particular situation, I don’t see any harm if the uncle was also into it. Probably not best to tell the whole family though.
I agree. There’s a huge taboo around incest, and a lot of people probably don’t understand or know about the Westermarck Effect and how most of us aren’t attracted to our own family or relatives, but there are quite often circumstances where they didn’t grow up with said family member, discover each other, and fall in love – there’s even an episode on Jeremy Kyle where these gay guys find out they’re brothers, and they’re gutted because they love each other, but because there’s a huge taboo about incest, even if it’s consenting, there are unfortunately laws which won’t allow them to ever get married or anything (YouTube “Gay Couple Find Out They Are Brothers Jeremy Kyle” if you’re interested in seeing this).
While I’m not attracted to anyone in my family, or relatives for that matter, if I was, it would be MY decision to be with whoever it is i’m attracted to, not everyone else and their opinion. If Kenny thinks his uncle is straight though, there’s no point even talking to his uncle about it – as his uncle would probably tell everyone he knows, and then Kenny’s family and relatives would reject him instantly simply because it’s extremely taboo and they’ll think it’s gross.
My advice would be to keep it as a fantasy. Not worth the embarrassment and shame that would come from it, if his secret admiration for his uncle got out. It’s similar to when you’d lose your job, and everything you have, and be named and shamed in the newspapers – before homosexuality was no longer treated like a mental disorder, and was decriminalized.
Incest being taboo is a social construct, just like homosexuality being unnatural etc. Scientifically and biologically it is not a stretch by any means. Many groups of people in Australia, Brazil, and Africa, openly practice incest. It is common in the animal kingdom, and we are just animals after all.
“As I put my head on the pillow that night, I couldn’t shake that image from my head.”
But I bet you tried to shake it from your dick 😉
does the uncle have an instagram account?
I don’t think I’d consider an uncle, who is a half sibling of the parent, incest really. In a lot of states it’s legal to marry your first cousin, and this seems like about the same level of blood relation.
Having said that, this guy should take a cold shower and keep his mouth shut.
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