Ellen had so recently come out, and this is going to sound silly, and hopefully not hurtful, but I don’t think I was aware of how painful it is to be closeted. I have the advantage of being a person who’s never had to hide my sexuality, so I asked her a lot of questions — frank questions — about what that feels like. She said she felt discomfort simply wearing all these dresses, and it was all very eye-opening for me. She was so unprotective [of herself] – I was very touched by that. It definitely made me more sensitive to the nuances of our movie.”
— Julianne Moore in an interview with Out about the costar of her new fact-based queer-themed film Freeheld (watch the trailer here)
1EqualityUSA
We are born this way.
Masc Pride
Dresses were the big concern? Really, Ellen? Sounds more like closeted gender dysphoria than closeted homosexuality. How about fear of being damned to hell, losing friends and family, people treating you differently, being fired or people not wanting you around their kids because they think you’re an oversexed perv that will try to screw anything?
1EqualityUSA
No matter where one falls on the spectrum, we’re all queer and we all have different people in our lives.
andy_d
@Masc Pride: Not everybody’s experience is the same. I was very fortunate, at the age of 16, to have had a mentor in coming out. There was no sex or physical contact of any kind. There was support and the means to ensure that this was who I truly was. When I was 17, I found out he was a psychologist. I am grateful for this experience.
It gave me the strength to face and stand up to the homophobes, including my own family. Even though there is no communication with my birth family other than a couple of cousins on my mother’s side, the choice as theirs. I have since been fortunate to have been given a new family who is loving, non-judgemental and supportive – that of my husband.
It may be that Ellen was given the support, strength and fearlessness by those close to her that he major concern were dresses. I hope this were the case. I wish it were the case for all those struggling with accepting themselves without the benefits that I have had. Because of my fortunate live, I try to help and support those who have not had these benefits.
martinbakman
@Masc Pride: Nope. She’s def. a Big Lez.
Looking forward to Freehold.
bottom250
@Masc Pride: Sweetheart not all our struggles are the same. Get off your high horse honey and appreciate the diversity and the various stories of our community. Honey, it is also one little quote.
AtticusBennett
ellen is a treasure, and julianne a rad ally. as for “masc pride” (HAHAHA!) and his comment – he’s talking about his own anti-gay family. thats’ why he’s not Out and pretends he’s masc. his entire family are a bunch of rabid anti-gay morons.
Curty
I expected the worse when I came out. But everyone has been nice, including my ultra religious mother. Even tho she believes the Lord will or can change me, she is respectful. I think if I was a bit flamboyant things might have been different.
bottom250
@Curty: Sweetheart I am so happy for you. Growing up flamboyant and effeminate has its challenges but I wouldn’t have changed it for the world. I love who I am.
Gary Allen
Julianne Moore is wonderful at whatever she does. I’m sure her “gay-friendly” means a lot more than most people’s “gay-friendly.”
Masc Pride
@andy_d: Support from loved ones is great, but it doesn’t erase common struggles gay people encounter. We are still all at risk for being treated differently, losing jobs/opportunities, etc. Support from loved ones just means you will have people to help you get through these things should they happen, but support doesn’t make you completely exempt from things happening. Gender-specific clothing is a small thing in comparison. It’s also hard to believe that Ellen’s biggest concerns were about dresses when rumors about her sexuality were popular long before she came out, so there was obviously some non-apparel related hesitation.
@bottom250: I’m aware we all have different experiences, and I’m not on any high horse. True, this is only one quote, but it’s also the only quote this story mentions. This one quote is all we have to go by when commenting on this particular story, honey.
bottom250
@Masc Pride: sweetie don’t be upset that the didn’t pick the best quote.
Josh447
Masc Pride
That was only one topic of “a lot of questions”. i think you can rest assured yours were covered. “Gender specific clothing” was Julianna’s choice to comment on. Nowhere does it say that Ellen’s clothing was Ellen’s main gripe. If you widen your perspective you might get more clarity. No one, NO ONE escapes the trials of discrimination. I’m sure Ellen would agree.
enfilmigult
@Masc Pride: Nah, you missed her point. She was saying she was surprised to realize even something that small would be a part of someone’s self-imposed change in behavior to stay in the closet. That’s why she said “simply.”
Billy Budd
Is Julianne Moore a lesbian?
bottom250
@Billy Budd: No, Honey she isn;t.
martinbakman
@Gary Allen: Exactly! She seems to treat everyone as an individual, with respect and intelligence.
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WR N Russell Dillow
This shall be a great film.
Masc Pride
@bottom250: No, you were upset about what I said. Scroll up and review, sweetie.
@Josh447: You’re assuming what other things were covered. I’m going by what Queerty actually reported here. There probably was more to the conversation(s), but clothing was the main gripe according to what is reported here.
tricky ricky
my fave question: so, what did you think of my tits in boogie nights?
bottom250
@tricky ricky: ewwww