Singer and actor Kelly Rowland believes it is wise to ask potential partners about their “past gay experiences.”
Rowland sat down with a reporter from the New York Post and made the comments while promoting her upcoming Lifetime film “Love by the 10th Date,” which airs at 8 p.m. on Saturday.
She said she believes “it’s proper to ask in today’s times.”
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Rowland added that many men and women don’t find out their partner’s true sexual orientation “until they go through their…phone.”
“I can’t tell someone how to feel about dating someone who is bisexual or had a past gay experience, but it’s proper to ask in today’s times,” she said.
Rowland, who has been married for three years to her manager, Tim Witherspoon, with whom she has a son, also touched on open relationships, including that of comedian Mo’Nique.
“None of my girlfriends that I know of have open relationships,” she said. “But Mo’Nique has the biggest smile on her face and seems happy. I just feel like I’m not in any position to judge anybody. We’re in a new time and space where sexuality should be talked about — whether you want to be with two people or three.”
Rowland, who also has a new book about to hit shelves, titled Whoa Baby, said the Obamas were a couple to emulate.
“Michelle and Barack [Obama] show you exactly how it should be,” she said. “Do not get duped and manipulated by these dudes who don’t know who the hell they are and have insecurities and then you have to deal with a plate of all of their sh-t.”
“Let them know they’re dealing with greatness — that they’re dealing with a queen,” she concluded.
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Rowland has expressed her positive feelings toward the LGBTQ community in the past, including in a 2013 interview with “Access Hollywood” at the GLAAD Media Awards, where she performed.
“I love, love, love the gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender community,” she said. “They’ve always been wonderful, always been supportive, and always been loyal. I think that’s what feels so great, is that you always feel loved and you always get that love back.”
AlexEf
Sounds quite shallow to me.
Neonegro
A lot of instances, it’s people typing too fast and not reviewing…..especially on the net.
Neonegro
Sorry AlexEf, that post was for Kangol
Neonegro
Everyone should ask partners about past sexual experiences, just as they ask about other life experiences.
It’s part of getting to know your partner.
AlexEf
So.. I guess Michelle and Barack asked each other about their past sexual same-sex experiences when they just started dating?
Neonegro
I don’t know what the Obama’s have to do with this.
If they are your role models, maybe you should ask them so you’ll know what to do in your own relationships.
Neonegro
the Obamas
AlexEf
They are Kelly Rowland’s models, not mine.
NateB79
Alex, Alex, Alex…..how could you also forget to bring up Hillary too in your pointless responses? The quality of trolling is really dropping lately.
Craig
Neonegro – Kelly Rowland said the Obama’s were the couple to emulate, that’s why Alex brought them up. Did you read the article?
Kangol
Kelly Rowland mentions the Obamas. Thanks for reminding us that to make plurals in English, you only need a “s” or “es,” and not an apostrophe. Not sure why that punctuation mark error has popped up so much in recent years, but it’s everywhere.
Neonegro
@ Kangol….A lot of instances, it’s people typing too fast and not reviewing…..especially on the net.
Jack Meoff
Rowland added that many men and women don’t find out their partner’s true sexual orientation “until they go through their…phone.”
WTF is that sh!t. If I found out my partner had been going through my phone checking up on me I would dump his ass on the spot. If you have a partner that doesn’t trust or if you feel you can’t trust your partner then how good can your relationship really be.
Brian
Well yeah, that’s her whole point. She’s saying you should talk about these things and be open with your partner so you don’t feel like you have to snoop on them to find out the truth.
JerseyMike
WTF is she talking about.. Sound a little ignorant to me..
SnakeyJ
She’s really just talking about being open and honest with your partner. Nothing ignorant about that.
Paco
This is straight dating she is talking about. They date with the idea that they are looking for a lifelong partner rather than a lifetime of hookups.
Such information would be important early in the relationship instead of being dropped on them years later.
Nothing wrong with asking. But she needs to be set straight about going through people’s phones. That’s just wrong.
Brian
She didn’t say you should do it, she said that’s how a lot of people find out the truth. She’s saying the correct thing to do is ask about it.
Brian
This sort of paranoia is gross. Women feel a false sense of comfort when a heterosexual man declares that he’s heterosexual, and then they feel afraid if someone is bi. Such ignorance. Your man could be cheating on you, regardless of his orientation. Bisexuals aren’t inherently slutty, and your straight man is probably lying about all sorts of stuff. Ugh. Grow up, Kelly.
Xzamilloh
Okay, I think a few people are looking for something to get mad about with what she said, which was pretty on the nose, minus the snooping part. The way I see it, if you need to go through someone’s stuff, you clearly don’t trust them and some priority evaluation needs to take place.
MaxTaste
My husband asked me about my past straight experiences. I was happy to say, “None.”
Evji108
Ask away, but most guys are hopefully smart enough not to tell. I put this question in the same category as “do these jeans make my ass look big”. Never, ever say yes.
And it’s none of her business in any case if you sucked a dick when you were 14.
Me2
It’s shameful that dishonesty equates to being smart. Unfortunately, many men do lie about it, which is why some women are so paranoid.
Herman75
…about how I felt up her husband back in the day, up in there.
FnameLname
If you are dating someone new and are not aware of their past just assume they have slept around and may potentially have several std’s. This will help promote safe sex until a time that both partners are comfortable with going to get tested together. That is assuming that they are in a monogamous relationship. If they are in an open relationship then the need for testing continues on a permanent schedule.
Realitycheck
People should ask anything they need to know before entering a relationship,
there are no off limit questions, if some thing is important to one, AKS!
QJ201
so naive
honey you every suck the D?
WTF woman?
(goes back to looking at Grindr)
surreal33
If people would view life as real as opposed to a reality show. Women would easily be able to see if a man was gay, straight or bisexual. Unfortunately, most women (and some men) prefer to live life in fantasy land.
eightinchnail
OK I’m thinking this is weird.