Color coded

If you still don’t understand why your “preferences” are racist, this video might help explain

In a new episode of MTV Decoded, Dylan Marron tackles an ongoing problem in the gay community: racism. Particularly, the sexual racism found on dating apps.

“When gay men are confronted with their racist language, many try to explain it away as ‘a preference.'” Marron says. “I mean, they can’t help it, it’s just how they feel. As if they were captive to some mystical, romantic force that naturally discriminates against people of color.”

Sound familiar?

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Before you get all defensive, why not hear what Marron has to say?

He continues:

This is where structural racism comes into play. Because preferences are actually shaped by learned values. When you’re judging a person based solely on their racial background, you’re acting on generalizations you’ve learned to associate with that person’s appearance or heritage. You can’t say it’s their personality because you shut them down before you even got to know them.


Related: Being cisgender, white, and gay is no longer enough to make a guy interesting

Marron breaks it down even further for people who still don’t quite get it:

We actually learn how to define what is attractive from those around us. And because we’re raised within a framework of Western beauty standards, society often characterizes non-white features as ‘different’ or ‘unattractive.’


Racism in Gay Dating?!? Ft. Dylan Marron

When it comes to dating the word “preferences” is often used to mask discrimination and sadly, this kind of dating racism isn’t just for straight people! So how does racism manifest in the world of gay dating apps and LGBTQ relationships?Special Thanks to Dylan to challenge your own bias? Take the quiz: by: Franchesca "Chescaleigh" RamseyProduced by: http://www.kornhaberbrown.comEpisode Written By: Gabe Gonzalez ( by: Andrew KornhaberMake Up By: Delina Medhin ( By: Matthew Rainkin & Sarah Van HooveEditing By: Linda HuangSources:'s_Classification_and_Lexicalization_of_Attractiveness_Gender_and_Race_Differential_Displays_of_These_Concepts_and_Relatedness_to_Bias_and_Flexibility

Posted by MTV Decoded on Thursday, February 8, 2018