This just in: straight college guys, especially guys belonging to fraternities, love making out with each other. At least, according to a new study published in Sexuality & Culture.
The study surveyed nearly 450 men from 11 different universities all across the country. Researchers also conducted in-depth interviews with 75 men, all of whom described themselves as heterosexual.
Some of the questions the men were asked included:
- How many different male friends have you kissed on the cheek?
- How many times have you made out with another man?
- How many different straight men have you cuddled on the sofa or spooned with in bed for more than 5 minutes?
- How many men have you made out with out of experimentation, your own sexual desire, or in a threesome?
- In total, how many different male friends have you kissed on the lips?
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Researchers found that 40% of participants reported having smooched another guy on the cheek, while 10% reported having smooched another guy on the lips.
Sometimes alcohol played a role in the make out sessions. Sometimes it didn’t.
“A few of the guys in the frat have been known to kiss each other when drunk, it’s become pretty normal now,” one participant told the research team. “We all know who the kissers are!”
Some of the participants said they don’t consider kissing to a sexual behavior.
“I kiss [my friend] because I love him,” one student explained. “I’m not attracted to him like that, but I do love him.”
Of course, not everyone felt this way.
“I consider it to be an intimate thing, something I’d only do with a significant other,” another respondent said. “That crosses boundaries that aren’t anything to do with gay. I wouldn’t even do it with a female friend because that’d just be weird.”
Researchers also found that guys with more favorable attitudes towards gay men were much more likely to have make out with another man, which isn’t all that surprising, really.
In conclusion, they found that that “same-sex kissing between men is a behavior that can be engaged in while maintaining a heterosexual identity at these universities.”
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Donston
Of course, another Graham story about “straight guys”. Obsessed much?
“Same-sex kissing between men is a behavior that can be engaged in while maintaining a heterosexual identity at these universities.” That’s not really saying a lot considering there are many men who love dick or like getting fvcked or enjoy fvcking people who are not cis women yet still say that they’re “straight” or “hetero”. Girls get to make out with each other all the time and it’s no big deal. So, why can’t guys be given the same privilege? Hell, many gay-identifying dudes make out with women all willy-nilly.
I will say that it is time that we accept that perhaps most people are not fully conventionally hetero or homo or at least wouldn’t mind engaging in some type of sexual or romantic activity/affections beyond one gender given their sociological circumstances and their ego. We also need to stop looking at behavior as the biggest determining factor when it comes to identity and “lifestyle”. Being “gay” is something entirely different than merely liking to hook up with guys to whatever capacity, and it encompasses its own spectrum and quirks.
Paco
As long as gay men, that don’t pass as straight, continue to get ridiculed, attacked, and discriminated against, then behavior most definitely needs to be a determining factor in sexuality labels.
Why should the “straight”guys that secretly have homosexual sex, get a free pass? They shouldn’t. Hypocrites must be exposed and given the appropriate label.
Donston
Trying to force people to be what you want them to be will never work. Not everyone feels the need to live their life according to social politics or feel responsible for other people. I’m sorry that I don’t place as much weight on attractions, sex, sexual behaviors or brief encounters as you do. “Gay” to me is more about passion, romantic love and relationship contentment. But I’m not seeing what “passing” has much to do with this. There are plenty of effeminate or semi fem guys who only really have interest in boo-ing up with a chick, who completely avoid a gay or even queer identity, who stay locked in a glass closet or who genuinely don’t have any real romantic and sexual interests and passion towards dudes. While I’ve encountered a decent amount of guys who are willing to admit to many people that they have some same-sex attractions, have indulged same-sex hook-ups or have some “curiosity” but are still interested in maintaining straight/hetero identities. I’m not one of those guys who is obsessed with every non gay identifying male. I just feel it’s their prerogative, especially if they’re keeping it real otherwise. And their are many people who identify as many different things and still avoid honesty. As I’ve said many times before, I really don’t care about anyone’s identity or who they’re screwing. I simply dislike people hiding legitimate relationships due to shame or fear, or people being too scared to go after what they want and people who are hypocrites.
Donston
Also, unless we’re going to force every gay identifying person who has some type of attractions or affections or have enjoyed any type of sexual experience beyond their gender to give up “gay” then this is a soapbox we need to get off of, or at least it’s one we need to approach with greater nuance. I just wish so many gay men and “gay sites” weren’t so damn obsessed with “straight dudes”, and I wish identity didn’t have so much weight (and yes, “straight” like everything else is an “identity”).
Lacuevaman
talk to yourself much, fool? look under your bed….they’re coming….
Greg
I don’t think kissing is a sexual behavior. Yes, it happens during sex, but kissing also happens outside of sex with family and friends. I wouldn’t French kiss family and friends though. I’m not surprised at articles that say things like, “straight guys like kissing other guys”, or “straight guys like having sex with their friends”, because everybody is assumed to be straight when we are born. Most guys identify as “straight” unless they realize something else. That’s why there are “straight” guys who get drunk and like to kiss their friends, or wind up having sex with them. Guys who are straight and identify as straight probably won’t make out or have sex with their buddies.
Lacuevaman
well said
Donston
I agree that assuming everyone is 100% hetero unless they come out or are “obvious” is a general issue. The spectrum is legit, and maybe most people fit on it in some way or another. But some people don’t even considering 100% heterosexual to equate to straight. “Straight” for some people (just like “gay”) is more about overall preferences and romantic relationship ambitions. Some people admit to being inherently “bi” or indulging a decent amount of bi behavior but still ultimately consider themselves “straight”. I’m trying to figure out what people want at this point. I’ve always just focused on people keeping real no matter identity and unabashedly embracing being with whoever they want to be with. But do we want the majority of this frat-house to now walk around saying that they’re bi because a decent amount of the dudes in the frat have now made out each other? Is it all about trying to force a particular identity on people?
It seems there’s this persistent obsession with wanting guys who have no real interest in being with a guy to be “out”. But even admitting that they’re not completely hetero is not enough. People want them to walk around talking about “bi pride” (or fluid, queer, pan, flexible pride if you have no issue with those identities). And I just don’t get it. Men who unabashedly want to date/be with another guy really shouldn’t give fvck.
gaimingfoxer
Sorry, but can we please stop trying to convince ourselves that all straight men constantly have gay sex?
First, all these studies are silly. As you yourself pointed out “described themselves as heterosexual”
Until we have some biological gaydar tested, you can never know if the person answering the study is straight or hiding in the closet or some other option.
Second, even the report says that 40% kissed on the chick (which really isn’t sexual, it’s a greeting for many cultures for crying out loud) and only 10% kissed on the lips.
Wow 10%? That’s about the estimation of LGBTQ people in the population isn’t it?
Makes the “maybe they aren’t straight” thing seems fare more likely.
I get that making out with straight people is a huge fantasy for a lot of gay people. It seems like maybe half the porn industry is trying to sell that dream.
But from this to assume in reality most straight people are fine with doing gay sex is insanely absurd.
cynicalsteve
Boy, some people sure do love to hear themselves talk (or write). A small sample size does not a valid research survey make. Sit your silly asses down, sip your tea and stop trying to adult when you can’t.
surreal33
The never ending “surveys” regarding male homosexuality are inane. Men like getting their rocks off and they not too choosy about which sex does the job so long as they get off. No mystery, no revelations.
ElPillo
A kiss on the cheek?! I do that to my father.
djmcgamester
Drunk guys make out. Shocker.