Yesterday, The Seattle Stranger ran an in-depth investigative piece about 28-year-old Jack Chapman, a man who died from bleeding in his lungs after having liquid silicone injected into his genitals. The story is sad and strange.
According to The Stranger, Chapman was in a polyamorous family of five muscle bears “pups” who were submissive to “Master” Dylan Hafertepen, a blogger also known as “Noodles and Beef.”
The pups all wear padlocked chain collars and many have a tattoo “brand,” either proclaiming themselves as “Property of Master Dylan” or bearing Hafertepen’s astrological symbol for Taurus.
Hafertepen, Chapman and at least one other pup had liquid silicone injected into their genitals to make them bigger, part of a body modification fetish. Liquid silicone injections are banned in the U.S. because they can be deadly.
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In December 2012, Chapman posted a contract of his alleged relationship agreements with Hafertepen. The contract forbade Chapman from using deodorant, masturbating, watching TV or hanging out with friends without the Master’s permission. It also said that Chapman had to give his paychecks to Hafertepen and literally grovel at his feet, crying and kissing them whenever they met.
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Some Dom/sub relationships sign contracts like these to theatrically express their role-play, not taking them literally. But Chapman’s friends say he seemed truly submissive, once calling himself “a piece of sh*t” on Tumblr for hanging out with friends without Hafertepen’s permission.
Chapman reportedly tried to leave Hafertepen in March 2017, moving in with a friend and cutting off his padlocked chain collar. But Chapman got back with him around the following July after Hafertepen filed a small claims lawsuit against him for unpaid rent.
Chapman’s friends and his own mother in Australia say they didn’t know that Chapman was sick or in the hospital before he died. Chapman died on Oct. 15, and one of his fellow pups said it was due to “a previously undiagnosed lung ailment.” However, Chapman’s death certificate shows that isn’t true.
Chapman’s mother has told Australian news that she’s looking into legal charges against Hafertepen, but no charges have been filed and the Seattle Police aren’t investigating him either.
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Brian
What happens to people early in life that makes them want to live their lives this way? Role play during sex is one thing, but devoting your life to wearing a padlocked collar and kissing someone’s feet every time you see them? That is flat out mental illness.
Donston
A lot of extreme paraphilias tend to be kick-started by past abuse (sexual, physical, emotional) or rape or other types of trauma. However, many people endure these sort of things and don’t become that severe with their sexuality and lifestyle. It seems other things have to occur from a mental and situational standpoint to get to a place like this.
Quite a few very functional and happy relationships are dominant-submissive, whether that dynamic is overt or not. But this is just another level.
uberhund
Sorry, this is a reply to Donston, not you Brian, but there wasn’t a button for replying to him separately. There is no evidence that being raped kick-starts extreme paraphilias, and the evidence that childhood sexual abuse leads to them is also very debateable.
Before further stigmatising rape victims and abuse survivors as potential future abusers or abused, I think it’s very important to be sure that this is really the case. Yes, it’s an opinion, but one for which the evidence increasingly seems to be missing. After all, being burgled doesn’t make you more likely to commit burglaries or take part in burglary-like activities – why should being raped make it more likely that you might be an abuser or further abused?
No one knows why some people enter abusive relationships that they could leave, or why some people abuse others. There is weak evidence of a genetic link – everything else is supposition. It’s comforting to think that there is a special group of people (abuse survivors) that this happens to, as it means we don’t have to face the disturbing fact that it could be any of us, in the right circumstances. Bullying and abuse work – that’s why people do it. You don’t have to be an abuse or rape victim to do it or suffer it.
Donston
I don’t see anywhere in my post where I claim being abused/assaulted equates to eventually wanting to be an abuser or a victim or even equates to the development of paraphilias. In fact, I said that many people go through a lot of things and don’t end up like this. It can however be the start of other sh*t. Obviously, someone’s mind and situation has to develop in a certain way and they have to go down a particular path. These extremes represent a very small percentage of people.
I’ve said many times on this site that people are all different for a ton of different reasons. But we need to stop being obsessed with not “stigmatizing” people and actually have legit and honest and unbiased conversation. That isn’t stigmatizing at all. And there actually have been many stats and studies on this particular subject. They just tend to get ignored or quickly forgotten about.
Juanjo
Donston has been posting unsupported opinions like this for a long time. They are hogwash and always have been.
uberhund
There have not been many stats and studies proving that extreme paraphilias are kick-started by past abuse. Most studies have shown no link, and those few that did failed to control for guilty parties claiming past abuse. No-one knows what causes extreme paraphilias, and I think it stigmatises victims of past abuse, rape, or trauma, to claim, without good evidence, that they are prone to stuff like this.
There is as much evidence that these things cause extreme paraphilias as there is that being gay is caused by having a bad mom. It is a folk-belief, nothing more.
Donston
It’s kind of funny that all you have to do is search through Google, read the numerous amount of articles and books on there on sociology and the human mind and sexuality, take a couple of college courses and/or merely have a few in-depth conversations with a decent amount of people. And you’d actually get a good sense of the many different things going on out here. However, because of social politics and because people are so damn sensitive it seems for nothing. That’s one of the biggest gripes I have with the “queer community” and partially why there’s still so much division and bitterness and misunderstanding.
This is a rather complex topic. I just mentioned some form of past abuse or trauma is typically connected to people to indulge extreme lifestyles of this sort. And yes, that does reflect the numerous stats and studies out there. We’re not talking about basic kinks and paraphilias here. Does that mean everyone who’s experienced past trauma, abuse, assault or rape indulges this stuff? Obviously no. Otherwise, around 30% of people would doing sh*t like this. I didn’t say anything of the sort in that post. But people like to see and interpret as they please.
Tarutaru
I don’t think it’s about things happening to him to make him stop respecting himself. More like he was this nice kind loving gentle guy who didn’t have self esteem probably didn’t get a lot of romantic attention because he’s a big guy and let’s face it gays are crazy about Adonis bodies and sex. So he got lonely and the loneliness is what Dylan took advantage of to real him in and the lack of self esteem is what Dylan preyed on when he manipulated him into changing himself. Basically “become this person and you will belong with people” we are social human beings. Everyone wants to belong somewhere. Dylan is a predator though. He is a sociopath. He has no real feelings and he is a loser so he takes advantage of vulnerable people and manipulate them into changing to make Dylan feel not only less lonely but like he’s on top of the world. This is sick abuse.
Tombear
A padlock around your neck in California means you are “off the market”.
Lacuevaman
it’s dumbston! what an azzhole!
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
So am guessing the moral of this story is that it’s a safer bet to get a store bought large silicone dildo?
misterjack
How tragic.
Liquid silicone? Really?
GetOffMyInternets
What is also most disturbing about this, is how Dylan acted after Jack had already died. When people asked him after hearing rumors about Jack being dead, he denied them, and said Jack himself was upset that supposed “friends” would say such things, and this was after Jack’s job released a statement of his death. He portrayed it as if Jack was still alive. Dylan scrubbed the internet completely of his existence, any reference on “noodlesandbeef” the blog was cleaned out and turned into recipes for food. Tumblr pages..gone. All Jack’s social media, gone. What Queerty also has failed to mention is Dylan also is connected to the death of two other men involving silicone injections into their genitals. The tumblr pages and Kiwifarms pages discussing this case have SO much dirt, text messages, posts on media, letters etc…Master Dylan is a psychotic human. He ruins lives as you will see if you dig deeper. Jack didn’t need to die.
Vince
Then he gets his body cremated within 3 days when there was no rush to it. He’s guilty as shit.
tdh1980
I followed Noodles and Beef on Tumblr years ago, but as his pound of pups grew, I became increasingly skeeved out by their relationship dynamics and overall peculiar behavior and stopped keeping up with him on social media. Though he kept a presence on Instagram, he disabled his Tumblr account a while back because of what he then said was racist harassment. Having traveled down the rabbit hole of this developing story last month when it initially broke, it’s become clear that Dylan has/had several toxic tendencies — if one believes those who’ve interacted with him in actual reality. Between Twitter and Tumblr you can get a much fuller picture of the depth of depravity of the entire situation.
RIGay
It’s sad. There was a piece on CBS Sunday Morning this past weekend about the anniversary of the Jonestown massacre. This very much resounds of similar cult foundations.
WTF are people thinking when they go into these… situations? Are they, themselves, that emotionally stunted that this does not feel unusual?
EZinHTown
That’s exactly what I was thinking. This sounds like a cult to me
mr guy
Damaged indivuals all round. Cue the “kink shaming!!!!. reeeeeeeeee
Vince
So I really hope they go after that Dylan. Clearly he was responsible for Jack’s death. He injected the silicone. It’s in his d#mbass rules that nobody touch his property. Then there’s the 200k will. This will be a good court case and I hope the mom at least gets the money back.
I have to say that she was very restrained in that video. Must have been really tough for her
HereIAm
What kind of lost souls are into such a ridiculously stupid dominant/submissive relationship? There is something absolutely abnormal with their brains. This is just not their personal business any longer. We all need to speak up against those despicable practices. They are wrong and wrong, no gray area here.
Paco
People are free to self destruct if they choose to.
misterjack
ONLY MISSIONARY-POSITION, MAN -ON-WOMAN SEX ALLOWED!!!!
Donston
People are indeed allowed to self-destruct if they please. However, some people really just don’t have the self-respect, the sense of individuality, the personal resources to stay away or get out of situations like this or are incredibly afraid to be alone and without some type of attention and affection. But as I mentioned earlier, there are many dominant-submissive relationships where the boundaries are very clear and where this is a mutual respect. And a lot of “normal” sex and relationships out here are dominant-submissive in some ways. It’s just not anywhere this overt or extreme or self-destructive. This was just flat-out abuse and co-dependency.
Cacti
I read the whole story on this site called KiwiFarms and indeed it is very sad.
Very sad to see that this young man mind was utterly destroyed by this manipulative and perverse piece of shit. So destroyed that it costs him his life.
On the site you have lot of evidence that Jack was trying to get away from this Dylan, and that the relationship dynamic was leaving him so unhappy.
Its really sad that some of us gays are so desperate for love and affection that they will let themselves get attracted to this kind of perverse dynamic. And by perverse im not talking about the BDSM stuff, im talking about all the psychological abuse.
Plus this Dylan is connected to the deaths of two other men apparently. And 2 weeks before Jack demise, out of nowhere, Jack decided to change his will to donate all his savings to a member of Dylan pup’s family instead of his brother.
Aires the Ram
I sort of followed ‘noodles & beef’ for a few years, but as time wore on, this Dylan character just seem to become more and more self-absorbed, ‘sociopath’ was screaming in the back of my head when I’d read things about his poly “relationships”. I think people who are emotionally weak are easy prey for people like this Dylan, and in my book that equals mental abuse, and in this case physical abuse up to and including death. I think law enforcement needs to build a case against this guy. What may have started out as adult bdsm, dad/son, bear/cub type relationships, seems to have taken a very dark turn as time went by. I don’t think we’ve heard the last of this story.
Aires the Ram
Additionally, That news report about his Mother confronting Dylan in her home was absolutely heart breaking. I cannot imagine her pain and her rage. After watching that, I cannot imagine why law enforcement hasn’t gone after this creep. When he smirked and laughed I wanted to take his head off, imagine what his poor mother felt.
dustychiffon
I’ve watched noodles and beef from afar over the last 8-9 years. I always thought he was freaky and his lifestyle seemed dangerous. His massive balls always grossed me out too, and the strange, sweaty, gorged, empty eyed faces staring back at the camera always disturbed me.
I never really thought it would get to this, but clearly this man needs to be behind bars. All the online history that he deleted/covered up soon after his death indicates somebody who clearly has psychological issues and something to hide. I even saw on a blog somebody showing screenshots of Dylan pretending to be his dead partner online, two or three days after he had passed. SAF.
I hope his mom runs him down.