Human sexuality is a fickle pickle, and there’s no one-size-fits-all to choose from. While many of us find “gay” or “straight” works just fine to describe our complicated sexual chemistry, others click elsewhere on the spectrum. A recent study found that 49 percent of Brits between the ages of 18-24 identify as something other than “100 percent heterosexual” when asked to plot themselves on Alfred Kinsey’s sexuality scale.
So before you scoff these labels off as made up or unnecessary, consider that it wasn’t long ago people laughed off “gay” as at best a delusion and at worst a serious illness.
At the end of the day, go for what makes you happy! And try not to get in the way of others doing the same — it’s just not worth your trouble.
More straight-identifying than bi, but still open and attracted to physical and/or emotional romances with people of the same gender.
The gay version of heteroflexible — mostly gay-identifying, but not entirely.
Attracted to genderqueer folks, or people who don’t identify as strictly male or female.
Attracted to anyone regardless of gender — how fun! For them it’s all about romantic connection, binary or not.
Someone who is romantically attracted — but not sexually — to others regardless of gender.
Not attracted to, well, anyone. Which sounds sad on the surface, but just think how many meaningful relationships in your life have nothing to do with sex.
These folks don’t have sexual attraction for another unless there is an already-established emotional connection. You’re unlikely to hear a demisexual person talk about that hot guy they saw on the train, but they still very well may fall in love and want to get down between the sheets.
Similar to asexual, except every now and then their libido will perk up and say “me! me! me!”
Attracted to all genders, but only if they read as androgynous.
Someone who is sexually attracted to themselves. So, 75% of the gay community. But where narcissists still look beyond themselves to find sexual partners, autosexuals are content with self-gratification.