A mom’s Reddit post has gone viral and prompted thousands of comments. It would be a good one to share the next time you hear someone whine, “I don’t know why gay people have to come out, no one cares these days!”
The mom (@Destroyedheart75) posted in the sub-Reddit, TrueOffMyChest, in which people vent about things going on in their life. She explains she has a 17-year-old son who came out as gay two years earlier. She said she was unsurprised and supportive, as she’d long suspected he was gay. However, her husband was shocked and never accepted the news.
“To this day he still refuses to believe my son is gay, he can’t believe it and thinks that my son is doing it because somehow he is resentful towards him.
“Last year he tried to send our son to a conversion therapy camp, those places advertise as ‘clinics for men’ but I opposed so fiercely that he gave up that idea.
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“Then, he tried to get my son testosterone shots with a shady doctor, in his mind my son needed to be more manly and more testosterone would awake his male instincts.”
The woman does not say where she lives. It should also be pointed out that being gay has nothing to do with testosterone levels.
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“It has been so difficult with him,” mom continued. “He is always berating our son, making snark comments, homophobic jokes, and he has started to drink again (before we started to date he was an alcoholic) he even throw my son’s poetry books because he thinks that poetry is for Fa… (you know).
“Last week while my son was alone at home, my husband came by with a girl dressed in a provocative way, he told my son that maybe he said he was a F because he has never been with a woman or didn’t know what to do with one and that girl was going to teach him.
“He left and left them locked and told my son that when he came back he wanted proof that he was a man.
“The girl told my son that it wasn’t any problem with being gay and that a lot of fathers hired her to have sex with their teen/young sons to avoid homosexuality. She was happy to be paid by doing nothing.
“My son felt humiliated, ashamed and that his privacy had been violated, he called me and I went to take him and to throw that girl out.”
Mom returned home and has now taken her son to live elsewhere.
“We are staying with friends (we left our house) because my husband disgusts me, after what he did I feel repulsed and I can’t stand him.
“I’m going to divorce him because these last years have been an inferno at home with him and I think I can’t forgive him for what he did.”
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The posting has had almost 60k upticks. Many of the commentators said it wasn’t the son who had the problem.
“Your husband sounds like he needs a lesson or two on how to be a real man,” said one well-liked response.
“Jesus Christ he sounds like my mom’s boyfriend when I was a kid. Your husband’s a piece of shit,” said another.
Others also recounted having similarly bad experiences with parents.
“Good mom. Mine was a homophobe, and I removed her from my life. My father divorced her, and we are all living happy lives without her.”
Plenty had admiration for the mom.
“You’ll get through this. You are a wonderful mother, and that sex worker sounds like a good person too. Your son will absolutely remember everything you’ve done to defend him,” said one.
Other moms also praised the mother.
“You are a fantastic mom!” said one. “Our son came out at 17 and he had nothing but support and love from all the family, extended family as well. He’s now 34, has a great job in another country and is getting married soon. We gained another son, I now have 4! Look after your boy, it’s not about your husband who, imho, isn’t worthy of the term, Dad.”
SamB
Why is a Reddit post treated as fact? This could be totally made up. If it is real the mother did the right thing, tragedy averted.
white-queer-african
Wow. For once I can agree with your sensible comment @SamB.
Keep it up, the sensible comments, that is!
Kudos.
Den
Most of the people you support and defend in your comments on Queerty would be carrying water for the ass#ole father. I’m surprised you are not as well (you did, after all, agree with “Marcy’s” comment on a prior article where she states children “belong” to their parents and it is their right to educate them as they see fit…and father knows best according to the far right).
But yes, just as lists of tweets are neither journalism nor terribly interesting (though getting more and more common here), so too is treating reddit posts as genuine.
MarcyMayer
SamB:
I agree with you. Furthermore, the woman in this narrative is this young man’s mother, whereas, her husband is the step-father, as I understand the story. Therefore, he had no right interfering with how the boy was being raised by his mother.
That’s why I support the “Parental Rights” bill in Florida. This goes back to Aristotle and Thomas Aquinas: The parent is the primary teacher of their children and no one should be interfering with that pivotal role. No one! Not the school system, not the government, not the aunt, not the uncle, and not this ignorant and cruel stepfather.
Donston
Once again, it’s a random Reddit post. So, believe with lots of caution. The whole secretly trying to inject him with testosterone thing might have been a stretch. However, I’m sure all of these things have happened to many people before and still do. An ex of mine claims he had an uncle who was seemingly pansexual but also anti-gay and tried to get him a female crackhead to hook up with him in order to make him “less gay”. There’s a lot of folks (even many out queers) who take issue with straight-up homosexuality or still promote the idea of hetero-normalcy and “straight love” superiority, no matter your sexuality, preferences, love, commitment leanings.
Dimensions, fluidity, contradictions, uncertainty about your place in the gender, sexual, affection, romantic, emotion, commitment spectrum- these are all real things. But conversion therapy doesn’t work. More than that, for people who aren’t purposely seeking it, it’s quite traumatic. And yes, this idea that “it’s 2022 and no one cares anymore” is incredibly naive as far as understanding a lot of people’s circumstances and internalized struggles. Just looking at the number of ignorant comments frequently on this site is a reflection of that.
UlfRaynor
One question Donston, knowing that Stonewall, GLAAD, the HRC and a whole host of other supposedly gay affirming institutions have all changed their mission TOS regarding homosexuality from same sex attracted people to same gender attracted people and also knowing that they, you and others (Queerty writers included) have continuously pushed the narrative that gender is a social construct and that sexuality is fluid and subject to change, how is it that you all now seem so morally outraged that some man would think he can facilitate that change in his own offspring?
Either sexuality is a gender based social construct subject to change like all those organizations and this very news site attest to or it isn’t. Seems to me, they all have some serious explaining to do or admit they might have jumped the gun a bit in their reclassification of what it means to be gay and lesbian.
ffxv
Yay for the sex worker with a heart of gold.
barryaksarben
For the shallow gay guy who wanted a version of “Pretty Woman” for gay hustlers THIS is it. A straight female sex worker helping a gay kid out. My dad forced me to eat wheat germ on EVERYTHING and to work out every day with my much bigger brothers. Didnt help in the way he thought
jt1990
Not sure if the Reddit post is legit, but this is actually a common practice in Africa if it’s suspected a young male is gay. They also have some type of religious thing where HIV positive men sleep with young daughters to bring good luck to the family
white-queer-african
@jt1990, you are partial correct. HIV positive men believed some years ago that if they slept with a young virgin girl they would be cured of HIV. Sadly all is did was infect more girls and then more men with HIV. Education over the years has partially helped to eradicate this myth.
Interestingly there are more black lesbians in South Africa than black gay males. Sadly a high percentage of black lesbians are raped and slaughtered for being gay. On the other hand black gay males are accepted and seldom harrassed.
Crazy world we live in.
Kevan1
Maybe mom needs to cure dad with a male prostitute who can handle himself against as_holes.
nm4047
Story for a start sounds like someone has a creative (or copied) imagination. Secondly, is the husband the (biological) father, if so, why is the ‘headline’ father hires hooker.
cuteguy
I was wondering that too since the mom kept on using “my son” in her post. Regardless, this POS MAGA loser drunk is a father figure for this abused child. I’m glad this boy was lucky enough to have support from his mom.
cuteguy
This boy was very lucky to have a supportive mom and even an understanding sex worker who should be applauded for having compassion for her abused clients. The father is a POS and hopefully will drink himself to death. One less MAGA loser in the world
quantum
This incident likely took place in Africa where the practice of “Corrective Rape” is not uncommon; so it’s not a MAGA thing, unless you consider the infiltration and exploitation of African nations by white, evangelical churches MAGA. It’s certainly horrifying and white supremcisist, but not exactly pro trump or pro america.
MarcyMayer
cuteguy:
We would have one less left-wing, Antifa nut like you in this world if you’d take 2mg of fentanyl.
Creamsicle
What else happened on reddit today?
Did someone knit something cool? Did someone else post a video to tiktokcringe?
Did someone on r/askgaybros try to deny transexuality exists?
quantum
protip: you can stop reading these sorts of articles.
white-queer-african
@quantum, BS comment. Corrective rape is predominantly happening in South Africa and focused on black lesbians and not black gay males. The Reddit story, if true, sounds very Maga country in the US. A white young man more like it. Most black gay males in South Africa only come out after they have left home.
Sorry to disappoint you, but more likely dumb Trump worshipping father.
UlfRaynor
Humans are commonly considered a relatively monomorphic species on the basis of our low bodily sexual dimorphism; however, given our species entrance into the cognitive niche, psycho- logical sex differences might be more indicative of where human evolution has been sex differentiated.
Meaning simply, you are either male or female. While you can’t physically change your sex you can have feelings of mentally/socially constructed dimorphism, which would make you transgender or have feelings of being non-binary, even though physically, the human species is exclusively, biologically binary. (two sexes)
CityguyUSA
“… no one cares” Where do you live in West Hollywood? That’s about the only place that I would consider somewhat safe.