For centuries, moral leaders have proclaimed anal sex a sinful, immoral act despite, or perhaps because of, the immense pleasure it can provide. They claimed it was obvious God did not create the anus for sexual stimulation. As recently as 2003, several states criminalized sodomy.
We beg to differ. In recent years even straight men are finally realizing what power bottoms have known all along. Anal penetration is the only way to reach your prostate. And your prostate is a huge source of sexual pleasure.
But why and how does an anally-accessible, walnut-sized organ bring you so much bliss? Here’s a handy guide to your prostate, and how you can get the most out of it.
1. It makes your jizz
Your prostate produces a zinc-heavy fluid that comprises about 30 percent of your semen. Prostatic fluid helps keep sperm alive and swimming in a vagina. The first spurts of an ejaculation consist of this fluid along with most of the sperm.
2. It makes your orgasm
Or at least, a significant part of it. In a small 2011 study, almost 40 percent of men who had their prostate removed reported being unable to orgasm. A larger 2014 study found only five percent were unable to orgasm after prostate removal, but 60 percent of men reported less intense orgasms. So while the science is unclear, the evidence suggests prostates are necessary for orgasms to be their best. Which leads us to …
3. It MAKES your orgasm
While so far all we have is anecdotal evidence (and personal experience), many men report prostate stimulation leads to body-convulsing, scream-inducing, mind-blowing orgasms. The prostate is full of nerve endings, and proper stimulation leads to intense sexual pleasure. In fact, some men are able to orgasm from prostate stimulation alone.
Technically it’s just outside your rectum. If you insert a finger (lubed – always lubed), gently into a man’s anus, it’s about two to three inches deep. Apply pressure toward the belly button, gently massage, and you’ll feel it. And so will he.
5. Be patient – and careful
Dr. Jack Morin, author of Anal Pleasure and Health, says one of the hardest parts about prostate stimulation is learning to relax your anal sphincters. Take your time — a few hours of solo exploration to get used to the feelings and sensations so you can fully let go. Go to a local sex toy store and speak with a trained salesperson who can find the plug/dildo/vibrator/new best friend you need to help you along. Stop if there’s any pain and see a doctor if it persists. And again, use lube. Lots and lots of lube.
And soon, after some practice, you will be ready for the real deal and singing the praises of your prostate! We definitely wish we had found ours sooner. If we weren’t made for anal penetration, it’s strange that it can feel so damn good.
Shed any shame you might have about prostate play! Watch Alex and Xander explore their prostates and give you some advanced tips and techniques to try out on yourself and a lover.
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