If the trove of “top privilege” tweets has a bottom, we haven’t found it!
Twitter users have been sounding off on top privilege for years now—often in the context of foods that only tops can eat without concern. (Fast food, dairy, and coffee are not bottoms’ best friends, it would appear.)
Zach Stafford, former editor-in-chief of The Advocate, mentioned a “no Chipotle before sex” rule among bottoms in a 2013 HuffPost blog post, adding that it’s just one way in which tops “have inherently greater privileges than do bottoms.”
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In a 2018 Killer and a Sweet Thang essay, future Are You the One? star and OnlyFans performer Remy Duran wrote that “tops have a kind of privilege that our vers and bottom sisters do not have” in the gay-male population, including the perception of being stronger and manlier—a thought process that results from “internalized homophobia and sexist attitudes towards penetration,” Duran said.
In his piece, Stafford wrote along similar lines: “The patriarchy tells us that to be a man is to be the penetrator, the phallus, etc. And in this line of thought, bottoms are seen ‘less than,’ ‘feminine,’ or ‘the woman’ because they are the taker of the phallus.”
Of course, Twitter users discussing top privilege usually aren’t talking about sexual and gender politics and power structures. More often, they’re just talking about all the cheese they can or can’t eat. Or they’re bragging about all the bottoms that want them. Or they’re talking about Ryan Philippe’s butt.
Here are their tweets…
Top Privilege for dinner pic.twitter.com/Aq3SyZ1hUe
— earth is cancelled (@mstrpotatohead) December 10, 2019
dairy is top privilege pic.twitter.com/ClbnFmVJ3h
— Camb (@chustoo) August 18, 2018
Flaunted my top privilege by eating McDonald's for lunch in front of the ENTIRE SCRUFF OFFICE. pic.twitter.com/nxdPJ6QBZ0
— Gabe González (@gaybonez) February 5, 2019
The top privilege here is astounding https://t.co/NsRU3nk2za
— Hilaria Duff (@Capta1nCam) May 27, 2020
Top privilege allows me to eat pizza before, during, and after sex
— Princess Tiny Feet, the Vamp Pup ?????? (@LateNiteGirlLuv) October 12, 2022
And yes, I fully acknowledge my top privilege here
— feral club rat (@dogoplanco) January 31, 2022
Top privilege is inhaling that crunch wrap supreme like I just did.
— TaylorMade (@expcted_chaos) January 24, 2020
Hi @TwitterSupport I’d like to report a case of top privilege. https://t.co/XgucxpL1h8
— J?MES (@james_csb) October 20, 2019
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@flicklix likes to sext me his top privilege. pic.twitter.com/7Flb24aOpy
— ???Midnights Pochow??? (@MarkPochow) July 17, 2021
For lunch today I microwaved shredded cheese on a bowl of doritos and called it nachos, in case ur wondering what top privilege looks like
— shonda rhimes wrote crossroads (@jersing) January 13, 2020
gay at work eating a mushroom and cheese pizza before going out clubbing….that’s some top privilege
— rïlë??? (@plantcutting) March 19, 2021
This is top privilege pic.twitter.com/Qpu1Z7aC5V
— Rudy (@Kangarudyy) June 8, 2021
I had a bag of Flaming Hot Cheetos and an iced coffee for lunch today. The top privilege is out here.
— feral club rat (@dogoplanco) October 16, 2020
cheesy stuffed jalapeños? top privilege strikes again :/// https://t.co/48Vy5vJ8qT
— josh milton (@itsjoshmilton) October 16, 2020
Lunching at the bathhouse is top privilege pic.twitter.com/hTrJepKmaa
— Shane (@McClellandShane) July 1, 2019
Top Privilege is when he calls you first thing in the morning, to tell you he's coming over to shag, and you have to get up from bed to take a bath you hadn't planned to take that early because douche and wash.
— Walter Ude ? #EndSARS #EndPoliceBrutality (@walteruude) December 24, 2020
Top privilege is sending a dick pic and then expecting a hole pic back immediately like babe hold on lemme set up the studio it’s a process
— jonny from the block (@ronnyjockets97) December 30, 2020
My boyfriend and I had a sushi date and I paid for lunch. When they came back they put the card and bill in front of him. (They totally think he’s the top because he has a baseball cap on)
Top privilege ?
— Swimmingway (@PhillyHomo) December 2, 2018
you know what hung top privilege is??? TWELVE DIFFERENT BOTTOMS WILLING TO FLY YOU OUT AND HOST YOU.
— piwwow pwincess (@brattyboochie) January 4, 2022
top privilege is having your own emoji ????
— meat bingo (@unlimitedbuffet) May 29, 2019
SFMike
This is just sad.
bachy
I wasn’t able to identify my puzzling reaction to this article until I read your comment. Thank you.
Joshooeerr
Yup. It’s also supposed to be funny, and isn’t. This kind of crap is not just sad, but damaging and irresponsible. Pity the young or impressionable who buy into it.
barryaksarben
REAL MEN CAN TOP AND BOTTOM WITHOUT CHANGING THEIR ENTIRE DIET. If it takes you 24 to prepare rethink it all
ShiningSex
some of those are questionable “tops”
Tim35
Can someone please explain how exactly these foods affect being a bottom ? I always thought food took on average 24 to 36 hours to pass through, so why can’t I have a pepperoni pizza and cheesy nachos etc etc just before a meet?
Doug
You can.
bachy
“Tops,” “Bottoms” or “Whatevs,” people who stuff themselves with a lot of this junk-type food tend to have really foul body odor.
SDR94103
ugh
Mark Smith
Bottoms have what tops want, yet the tops have the privilege because they can eat burritos whenever they like. Got it.
Jesus…
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Rocinante
What a dumb and nonsensical article. I recently really discovered how awesome bottoming is. I certainly don’t feel less dominant nor more. We are both equals in this as it’s rather critical for both of us to enjoy it. I grew up on the east coast; live in Boulder now. I’ve decided east coast gays have a lot more wierd hang ups about sex and still hang on to all the ridiculous stereotypes created around this subject. Guys here are much more laid back about sex; bottoming or whatever. My unscientific analysis suggests there are 4 bottoms in Boulder to a strict top. Hell even vers. really means bottom. I get pushed into topping a lot more than I prefer(large penis somehow means you should only top); too much work and age has made the multiple nerve impacting effects of bottoming a lot more enjoyable. Even the boys with girlfriends and claim to be straight; want to bottom. As a real vers.; topping sucks; often. Plus; lots of younger guys haven’t figured out prepping very well.
The single most dominant position period; girl or male; is the blower. When I have your most precious item in your live in a hole filled with sharp teeth and a bite rate of 162lbs per sq.; I’m in control. Just watch the jail scene in Banshee.
Jon in Canada
The level of stupidity and willful ignorance on display with this article is impressive in its quantum level of d’uh.
JJinAus
No idea what’s going on here. Too old to care.
sfhairy
Fisting bottom here and this article is such BS. You eat whatever you want if you’re a bottom.
Pier
How dare these people make a joke and have a sense of humor about gay sex.
PinkoOfTheGange
And some guys didn’t get that St8Acting.c0m was a joke either.
Mostlikelytobedownvoted
Im starting to believe Queerty is run by 12 year old straight girls. This post is such utter garbage. Imagine thinking that its funny to spread this much disinformation. Watch them do a post about the problem with body issues in the gay community next without a hint of irony. Assholes.
Ronbo
Yes, you caught the gist of the Editors and Don… recycling thoughts of twits on twit twit twitter. I guess it’s easier to copy than to originate. “Easy” is how these editors roll.
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preppyesque
This article made me think what Bette Davis once said is true….”Sex is God’s joke on mankind”. Personally I would much rather be shopping and drinking.
lou lou de la falaise
“And the joke was on her.” – Joan Crawford.
MDWolf12
Color me shocked! If I ate any of that crap I would not be in any state to top or bottom. all that garbage would destroy me.
SDR94103
what is this crap?