A fascinating new article by Metro UK takes a deep dive into transvestic fetishism and the straight and bisexual men who partake in it.
(Just to be super duper clear, a transvestite is someone who enjoys dressing in clothes primarily associated with the opposite sex. Contrary to what some Republicans believe, it’s completely different from being transgender, which is when someone’s personal identity and gender doesn’t correspond with their birth sex.)
Liam is bisexual man.
“To me, ‘transvestic fetishism’ can travel in both directions,” he explains, “either being turned on by other men dressed in lingerie or women’s clothes; or being turned on by dressing oneself in lingerie.”
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He continues, “For me, it starts and stops at lingerie. I’ve no interest in dressing as a convincing woman and men completely dressed as women don’t rev my engine. But being in lingerie or being with a man dressed in lingerie can be incredibly arousing.”
Liam says part of the appeal is the way a dude looks in women’s underpants (“Most men’s underwear is boring, functional or plain ugly. Women get all the beautiful things!”) and part of it is the way the garments feel (“there’s the feeling of lingerie etc against the skin”).
“For those with no such interests, I imagine it must look comedic, ridiculous or simply wrong,” he says, “but everyone’s entitled to their opinion.”
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Then there’s Noel, who is married to a woman and who identifies as straight.
“As far as anyone knows, I’m a conventional, married, heterosexual, sexually unadventurous man,” he says. “My secret is that I like women’s panties.”
“Most days, I will be wearing pretty feminine panties under my suit or jeans,” he confesses. Lacy, sheer, cotton or silky, it doesn’t matter. “I love the way they feel on me and I love the way they look,” he says.
“I’m a fit, athletic masculine guy so I love the way my hairy, muscled body contrasts with the femininity of my underwear,” he continues.
Noel says his wife knows about his naughty little secret and finds it hot as well.
“What she doesn’t know,” he adds, “is that I also get turned on by looking at pictures of other men in panties, and of sharing pics of myself online.”
For years, I had a secret Twitter account where I shared pictures of myself in panties and followed other similarly-minded men. It started to become a bit compulsive and the guilt got the better of me so I deleted the account and tried to give it up… I still have the occasional lustful look though. Many people, I think, would be astonished at how many conventional straight men like me are a) wearing panties regularly and b) getting off at looking at other men in panties.
Noel says he hasn’t engaged in any physical homosexual activity… yet. Though he admits “the temptation is strong.”
“I fantasize endlessly about playing with another man, trying on different pairs, and stroking each other,” he says.
“One day, maybe.”
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h/t: Metro UK
Juanjo
I remember one of the total jocks from high school who after graduation went on to attend uni at the same school I was attending. We became friends at some point, in a haze of pot smoke and cheap wine, I told him I was gay and he told me he loved to wear women’s panties, something which apparently turned on his girlfriend. I am still in contact with him and all these many decades later, he is still happily married to that same, former girlfriend and so far as I know, is still happily wearing women’s panties.
Danny595
“it’s completely different from being transgender”
– lol. No it’s not. Many if not most transgenders are not gay and the large pool of straight and mostly-straight ones are autogynephiles. The truth is that the LGB drones who mindlessly promote the fraud of an “LGBT people” don’t really know the first thing about transgenderism.
– The other interesting thing about this Graham Gremore piece is that he introduces a bisexual dude as bisexual. But the straight dude is not described as straight but rather as someone who “identifies as straight.” Why the difference? I guess he is trying to tell us that the straight guy is a liar but the bisexual is authentic, but since he is not an actual journalist and has no information on either of these 2 men, he uses smarmy writing tactics to smear the straight guy.
CastleSF
Danny, I am with you 90% of the time and even I think you are going a little too far this time. This article is about cross dressing among straights and bis. As disgusting as it sounds, there doesn’t seem to be any cure for this fetish. For bisexuals, if you have to have a fetish, pick a different outfit like leather. At least you look better in it than women’s lingerie.
CastleSF
It is not that I disagree with you, Danny, but I think your excessive aversion to transgenders has little to this article, which just discloses a shocking fetish of the most unsavory kinds. What does this fetish have anything to do with transgender people? Anyone who entertains such a revolting fetish, straight or bi, has a secret that most people would prefer not to know.
alfred
Its called autogynephilia. Many trans women are autogynephiles (though most strongly reject the idea as they see the sexual side to them wanting to ‘become’ women as problematic…..) Regardless, there is much evidence that this is what it is. Many trans women previously identify as straight and most simply as cross dressers before trans. This is similar to how many gay men identify as bi before gay. Pseudo-bisexuality and meta attraction (in relation to trans women) are more controversial and admittedly flawed arguments made by the likes of Blanchard and Bailey. Needs more research.
inbama
I so hate that word “problematic.”
Most often now it refers to something that is true but shouldn’t be said.