Something’s going on with Queerty crush Milan Christopher.
Last week, the 34-year-old actor/hip hop artist wrote a cryptic tweet confessing that sometimes he wishes he wasn’t gay, saying: “I wish I could just be what society think is normal. Sh*t would be so much easier. Like is there a f*cking pill I can take or surgery I can undergo.”
You know… Sometimes I wish I wasn’t gay. For the people that think it’s a choice.. Like today is one of those days.. i wish I could just be what society think is normal. Shit would be so much easier.. Like is there a Fucking pill I can take or surgery I can undergo. Overit! ?
— Milan Christopher (@MilanChrisGordy) August 29, 2018
This week, he still seems down in the dumps. Yesterday, he tweeted about his mounting frustrations about “tolerance” verses “acceptance”:
I CANT WAIT FOR THE DAY THAT GAY MEN & WOMEN KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN *TOLERANCE* & *ACCEPTANCE*… ?
— Milan Christopher (@MilanChrisGordy) September 5, 2018
He also took aim at the music industry and how many singers who claim to be LGBTQ allies rarely actually support or work with queer artists:
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Dear Gay Men, y’all do realize that the Female Singers & Rappers that you’ll made famous, continue to support & be so adamantly attacking each other over, HAVE NEVER DID A SONG WITH, SUPPORTED OR HELPED OUT any openly gay artist in the industry.
— Milan Christopher (@MilanChrisGordy) September 5, 2018
We’re not sure what’s going on, but we hope he’s doing alright! Until now, it seemed like things were up and up for the Love & Hip Hop: Hollywood star.
Related: Milan Christopher proves he’s a marketing giant in hyper-revealing video
In July, he launched a line of golden flesh lights. He also just released his album BeastMode and was awarded the IMPACT Award at the Pure Heat Community Festival, Atlanta’s annual Black Gay Pride celebration.
No Words can describe how it feels to have the Mayor & the City of Atlanta to recognize me & giving me the most influential & impactful black lgbt artist award, Getting this award from my own community in front of over 30,000 people & on @Fox News was one of the most amazing exp pic.twitter.com/vcrQYmcB6h
— Milan Christopher (@MilanChrisGordy) September 5, 2018
Milan, if you’re reading, hang in there, buddy!
Related: Milan Christopher is selling a fleshlight molded from his very own brown star
GetOffMyInternets
Hopefully he feels better soon.
Can’t wait for all the spam sites to comment now to get people to click on their bullsh*t dating sites.
Frank Lee Mideer
Poor guy. My therapist told me (at the age of 19 nearly 50 years ago) “it would be easier for you to walk on the ceiling than be straight, go home and accept yourself and be happy” The best advice I’ve ever had and has served me well for many years. Happy AND gay!
Donston
We’ve already been down similar routes with him. He concocted a fake DL relationship and love triangle just to get on a reality show, “leaked” his own sextape, has already said some things about not wanting to be gay and seeing himself ultimately ending up with a female, and he claimed that he was dating a female until that female called him out and said it was bullsh*t. So, I don’t really take anything this dude says or does seriously. And really, if you don’t want to be with a guy or don’t want to deal with the social ramifications of having a same-sex partner or people perceiving you as “gay” then just don’t be with a guy.
On the other hand, he does make some interesting points. Someone “tolerating” you doesn’t mean that they respect you or view you as an equal. And the entertainment industry is full of self-hatred, hypocrisy and supposed “allies” who mostly care because of the money and/or adoration.
frankcar1965
Shut the Fock up, you stupid Queer.
Chrisk
Ain’t no one going to mistake that mess for straight. I can see those mannerisms and sequins a mile away.
Lacuevaman
you go frankcar…. the stupid dumdston continues to show his limits and alliance to the sissification of queer culture! he is from the ilk that has made homosexuals an object of disdain to straights. he’s not like any queer I want to be!
Donston
Lacuevaman, do you not realize that people associate “queer” with “sissy” even more so than they associate “gay” with “sissy”? And that people with some type of gender dismorphia often feel the need to embrace “queer” rather than “gay, and that people often identify as “queer” to show their alignment with trans people, fems and individuals with gender “fluidity”? The fact that you disowned “gay” because you don’t care for gay-identifying men and fems but choose to embrace “queer” shows just how ignorant you are concerning culture and movements.
GetOffMyInternets
God you’re an a*shole
Kangol
He’s dealing with homophobia and lack of acceptance. He’s a gay man, he’s talented, he’s beautiful, and he sees through a lot of the BS about people in the music and other industries claiming to accept gay people but not really doing so. Even with his successes, he can feel the rejection and hatred. I get where he’s coming from. It’s not easy, Milan, but please hang in there and don’t give up. It’s not you that’s the problem, it’s the homophobes and people ruled by their fear and hate.
Donston
I know that you like to show unbridled support for anyone who’s black and “queer”. But the dude is an unrelenting attention whore, has indulged a lot of manipulation, has flat-out lied about quite a few things and isn’t what most would refer to as “talented”. All of his inner issues and career problems are clearly not entirely social.
He does make some good points. And I do understand that trying to get a career going as an being an openly gay male performer, particularly a black one, is difficult. The problem is that he just hasn’t had any buzz worthy songs but also that he’s very dependent on his sex appeal. There’s a lot of women and hetero worshiping gays that are not going to bite on that when it comes to openly gay male performers. I hate to admit it, but being a big “queen” helps to get more people to pay attention when you are an openly gay male performer.
Black Pegasus
@Kangol
LOL.. I was ready to throw shade at his fake name and his fake booty having self, but after reading your comment I now feel just a tiny bit of empathy for Ms. Milan. And he’s right! Straight People only tolerate us, they really don’t care to accept us. In fact, many straight people are disgusted by gay people and everything we represent. I’ve sat in the company of closeted homophobes who didn’t know I was gay and I was stunned at how willfully ignorant they were.
StraightnNarrow
It’s obvious that everyone on this forum on a regular basis knows that Kangol has never tried to hide his biased preferences for anyone that’s black and gay, even if they are whores and have no moral compass.
Donston
Black Pegasus, I rarely go a month without being exposed to homophobia from people who don’t know that I’m “mostly into dudes” and married to a man. It’s definitely scary just how prominent and casual attitudes that are anti-gay, anti male-male committment and anti same-sex families remain. And it often comes from people who claim to be tolerate or who have gay friends. Hell, it sometimes comes from openly gay people.
This is a situation where you have to separate the messager from the message.
Chrisk
@StraightnNarrow. Can’t you find another place like “virgins saving if for Jesus” sites out there. Ehh.. SFCastle?
Josh447
StraightnNarrow,
Send me a ho with no moral compass and I got me the prefect Sat night.
Kongol,
Very true. Phobia is hard to deal with on any level. He is beautiful. I hope he flies high over the drama flicking peanuts at the peasants groveling with their sexual insecurities.
Milan,
Be strong man. You can overcome all of it.
theafricanwiththemouth
I think @ChrisK posts some of the funniest and accurate comments on here.
@StraightnNarrow i get you desperately want the world to see that you are the spitting image of the gay version of a straight, white, Christian, “virgin till marriage” male, but not everyone needs to live such a prudish hypocritic heteronormative lifestyle.
@Kangol, as much as this Millan dude deserves some sympathy, your strong support for POC (especially black celebs) does go a bit too far sometimes (bias?). I get it may be a thing with taste and opinion, but this guy is far from talented. Definitely not a good singer or rapper because everything about him, entertainment-wise is forced and way below average. Also, i get that many straight “allies” are in it for the adoration, but just in case his tweet was a way of implying that gay artists like himself don’t get help from top straight stars, he should know it’s for good reason. Folks like him bring nothing new, unique or superb to the table, so what’s the use?
Unlike Frank Ocean and the likes who do great work, his and others like him, pale greatly in comparison.
Kangol
@ Donston, I don’t show “unbridled support” for “anyone who’s black and ‘queer,'” but I do understand where he’s coming from. I also don’t think he’s as bad as you say; yes, he’s played things up for the cameras, but he’s in show business, not in the running for Mr. Ethics or saint of the century. I also don’t think he’s as untalented as you say; I mean, if Lil’ Yachty and Tec6x9 can have careers (and fame), he should as well. I do agree with you about the women and hetero-worshiping gay fans, though. I’ve always thought that it’s one reason far more talented out gay rappers like Mykki Blanco and Le1f haven’t received the attention they deserve. Tyler got his start repping as straight, as did Frank Ocean, who, I agree, is far more talented.
@BlackPegasus, I hear you, and thanks for at least getting what I was saying.
@ChrisK, thank you. I sometimes come at you, but I appreciate your posts–and your wit.
@Josh44, thanks for your thoughts.
@theafricanwiththemouth, you may see it as “bias,” but I see it as speaking up on posts I find of interest. Again, I agree with the comments about Frank Ocean, but I also don’t think Milan Christopher is as untalented as you say.
@StraightNNarrow a/k/a CastleSF a/k/a Troll with no Roll, girl, here you come calling someone “biased.” You know what that’s called? Psychological projection. Now go unknit your knickers and have some Snickers!
Donston
I do understand where he’s coming from and I agree with much of the message he’s delivering here. However, I’m sorry, but faking a love triangle and exploiting your orientation/preferences to get on a reality TV show, leaking your own sex tape, flat-out making up a bunch of sh*t to keep trying to drum up attention- there’s too much desperation and shadiness there. And he doesn’t have much talent to back it up. There may be plenty of terrible artists who are relevant, but that doesn’t suddenly make this dude talented. He’s not even particularly charming or likable or “different” (like, say, a Cardi B). So, there isn’t really anything going on there outside a willingness to show off his body.
Donston
It is telling that Elton John and Sam Smith are really the only openly gay/unbashedly homo-leaning male performers to achieve legit pop success. Not only are they both white, but neither makes any directly homoerotic or homoromantic music, neither is anywhere near a “sex symbol”, and both have depended on appealing to an older fanbase. While of course, Elton was closeted throughout the 70’s. However, this dude is not where the change up is at.
StraightnNarrow
I actually agree with Donston this time. Anyone, including Kangol, who thinks that this attention whore is talented, has mediocre taste at best. Kangol’s persistent addressing me as girl in a derogatory way shows what a misogynist he really is. For him, if you are gay and black, you can do no wrong. That’s what his world view is: frightfully biased.
Donston
I’d rather my words not be twisted to promote slut-shaming (a term I rarely use).
theafricanwiththemouth
@Kangol well i do find your comments to be among some of the best and, i dunno, smartest? on here. So this little difference in opinion (or taste) can’t dent that. Also, i don’t really see it as bias, just kinda unsure because CM seems no diff from most reality stars to me, you know, no talent hacks. But whatevs, like i said, it’s probably more a thing with diff in taste.
Pistolo
He’s absolutely right.
Let’s face it- on the world stage, almost any studio or artist will disown us to make a buck. Yes, there’s Pose, one of the biggest talk show hosts is Ellen, yes we have a number of other “niche” things- partitioned areas of the industry where we’re acceptable. But gay actors, singers, or anything creative even vaguely capturing the concept of anything other than heteronormativity is largely viewed as lesser. When we’re accessorized to a popstar, when we’re the token queer, when we’re meant to make this nation look less homophobic, we’re exploited up the wazoo for queerbaiting and free press. Otherwise? Nah.
“Call Me By Your Name” & “Love, Simon” aren’t going to change the fact that there are a lot of people who respect us only enough to allow us to get a marriage license…which, honestly, isn’t saying much. Did it change EVERYTHING for black people when Cosby went on air? Look at us today! The bias is against us, we modify our presentation and behavior to avoid violence and discrimination, we’re forced to focus on a million micro insecurities imposed on us…it’s still hard out here!
StraightnNarrow
You should be ashamed of your victim mentality. Stop feeling sorry for yourself or other gays and be a man and stand your ground.
Pistolo
@StraightnNarrow, I’m really sorry that you’ve succumbed to internalized or externalized homophobia. You’re more a victim than I’ll ever be. Anyone who’s been through anything, anyone with character is strengthened by prevailing whereas you weaken yourself by concentrating your contempt on a group of people who have nothing to do with the emptiness inside of you. Get help.
Prax07
His name’s Milan for gawd’s sake, how could he Not be gay with that name.
judysdad
Who the hell is this guy anyway? Never heard of him.
JaredNorthcutt30
I transitioned into an asexual trans woman. It wasn’t easy. Rapes, pistolwhippings, abusive dudes. My year without sex? Happiest I’ve ever been. Best of luck, MC.
Donston
First, you missed the point of his posts, if you even bothered reading them. None of what he complained about is comparable to your statements here. Secondly, you’re doing what too many “queers” do: become victimized (whether it’s by molestation, rape, bullying, religion, manipulative or abusive partners) and instead of confronting those issues head-on they merely succumb to permanent victim status and start pushing (even if it’s subtlely) anti-gay, misogynistic, misandrist, trans-phobic, anti-fem, etc. agendas. The world f-ed you up. That’s not everybody else’s fault. I’m tired of people pinning every queer problem on gay dudes, something that even many gay men have the tendency of doing.
JaredNorthcutt30
Did I blame it on gay dudes? Nope. I’m saying I’m healing in MY OWN WAY. Was it necessary for you to chime in here and paint the gay men victimization brush? Nope! Sure wasn’t!
JaredNorthcutt30
And sweetie baby, Donston, I’m not a victim anymore. I’m empowered. Learn the difference. Thanks!
James
WHAT A NARCISSISTIC LOSER.
JaredNorthcutt30
And finally, dear Donston, here’s what I’m saying. It’s a point of view some Radical Faeries agreed with me. I’m healing in my own way. If Milan Christopher wants to heal in his own way, let him. STFU. It’s his experience. Not yours. And that’s what Queerty did today with their update story. Honest to god, you don’t have to chime in with your mansplaining in every post. It’s unnecessary. Everyone has different experiences. Be compassionate instead of getting your penis out and penising all over posts with your ‘I’m always right’ worldview. It’s tiresome.