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Nico Tortorella gets candid about self-pleasure: ‘I am my own lover’

As an actor, poet, and activist, Nico Tortorella hasn’t had much time to explore their polyamorous queerness… but they’re wanking working on it.

“Let’s break some things down for a minute,” they wrote in a now-deleted Instagram post. “I talk all this big game about polyamory and LGBTQ identity. This year, I haven’t had the time to properly explore secondary or tertiary relationships outside my marriage in meaningful ways. That however does not invalidate my queer existence. In fact, the majority of my sexual expression manifests via self-pleasure.”

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The Younger star — who rejects gendered pronouns alongside partner Bethany C. Meyers — explained that masturbation is “a healthy, personally intimate sexual activity” with “many benefits for your physical and mental health,” as well as “a natural and safe way to explore your body, fantasies, feel pleasure, and release built-up sexual tension.”

“In short, I am my own lover,” they said.

Tortorella then asserted that the word “lover” can refer to a sexual partner, a toy or product, or even someone practicing self-love.

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“Lovers is a name for all seeking, receiving and giving sexual pleasure,” the 30-year-old elaborated. “Each individual has a right to sexual pleasure and autonomy defined by their own expression. Everyone, regardless of race, gender identification, sexual orientation, ability, or socio-economic status deserves to reach their greatest pleasure potential.”

Cheers to that! And by the way, be sure to check out Tortorella’s recent Twitter photos to see them on the way to their “greatest pleasure potential.”

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