It’s started happening to us, and we’re not all too pleased: Younger bucks casually calling us “daddy.” Should we be faintly annoyed and more-than-faintly turned off by the whole thing?
At the very least, we’re far from alone in our torment. A Redditor named AskGayBros wonders, “Older gays, at what age did you start realizing guys were messaging you and seeing you as a daddy?”
Well. First off, we’ll take “daddy” over “older gay” any day, but moving on.
One commenter named TheBestof73 insists that 30 is “gay death”:
It’s the point you become completely unwanted in the gay community. You’re old, a creeper, a target for young gays who see you are a source of “generosity.” I didn’t think that shit was real until the most obnoxious thing happened to me.
I was 29 and had been chatting with this 22yo on some site. It wasn’t anything serious, just hooking up type stuff. About two weeks or so go by before our schedules line up to where we can meet and fool around. We arranged to meet while on-line and before he left he asked me my age again. So happened, my birthday was the week before, and I mentioned that I had just turned 30.
He says “Oh, really? 30?? That’s a little outta my age range.” I remind him we met when I was 29, just two weeks or so previous but he says “29 is different..it’s not 30.”
“It’s not true,” he says. ” ‘m 44 and get way more hookups now than when I was 30.”
And even more than when I was 20. It started when I was 40. Suddenly all the cute, slim twinks I used to want to be with but was too shy to ask are hitting on me. I have no idea wtf is going on. Please help, I can’t cope with so many hookups.
“I hate hearing ‘dad’ for anything sexual,” writes BrobearBerbil. “It just triggers my ick factor pretty hard.”
You’re probably wondering what pr0nm0n thinks of all this. We’ll tell you.
“I was always a big guy with a muscular frame,” he writes. “Being 6’4 didn’t help so I started being called ‘daddy’ at 21 even though I have a baby face.”
It’s more of a mentality thing. Guys like being dominated, and most gay guys have father complexes. I’m 28 now and I’m loving it. Ass everywhere.
It happened to VeitPogner in his late 30s. “It was surprising — and took adjusting to accept — that some guys were attracted because of certain signs of middle age, not in spite of them.”
But for genialerarchitekt? It happened in his forties:
I’m 44 and younger guys hit on me all the time. It surprises me no end. I would prefer a fit guy my own age but they’re all into twinks. So apparently I’m a really “nice guy” lol and I look younger about 35 although I disagree. I know what I looked like at 35 and I have definitely got older since then….
I’m not comfortable playing the daddy role but at a certain age you realize you just are without even thinking about it. For me that was around 40.
What about you, kindly Queerty commenters? Have you been called Daddy? At what age did it begin? Does it make you swell with pride or, erm, annoying the living furrrk out of you?
Weigh in in the comments below.