In a letter to advice columnist Gasegale Sengwaketse (try saying that three times fast!) at The Voice BW, the troubled young man writes: “I’m a 22-year-old guy who is heartbroken because my girlfriend cheats on me. I forgave her more than once but she keeps on repeating although she had said it was a mistake the first time it happened.”
“I feel very sad because of what she’s doing to me and I’m beginning to lose trust in women,” the man continues. “I’m scared that even if I find another woman she would also cheat on me.”
“Should I become gay or what?” he wonders.
Sengwaketse wastes no time getting to the heart of the matter.
“Should you ‘become gay’?” he writes. “What a question!”
“Being gay is not something that you can just wake up one day and choose to ‘become’; and besides, even gay people have cheaters among them.”
“What if you ‘become’ gay and your partner cheats on you, what would you do?” Sengwaketse asks. “Would you then lose trust in men and go back to dating women?”
The bottom line,Sengwaketse says, is this: “You can’t just switch on and off between being heterosexual and homosexual.”
He concludes by telling the young man he should “seek counseling” for his “constant heartbreak.”
We say forget counseling, dump your girlfriend then give us a email@example.com!