Queer model/actor Nico Tortorella has opened up about the time they made Ashton Kutcher really, really mad for snorting cocaine at a cast party.
The revelation comes as part of Tortorella’s new memoir Space Between. The actor, who identifies as non-binary and prefers they/them pronouns, recalls an incident that happened during the short-lived series The Beautiful Life in 2009.
Just after doing cocaine in the bathroom, they approached Kutcher for career advice. (Great timing, Nico!)
Kutcher’s advice: “Don’t put anything up your nose.”
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“I’d literally just come out of the bathroom from doing a handful of key bumps,” Tortorella writes in their memoir.
“Ashton’s a smart dude, and he very quickly realized I was high. He got in my face and started yelling at me, telling me I was flushing my entire career down my nose in front of everyone, including Demi Moore and Bruce Willis.”
Tortorella sent an email of apology to Kutcher the following morning, who responded with a curt email of his own. “Life is not a dress rehearsal, Nico.” Kutcher replied. “You either show up, or you’re out.”
Tortorella then goes on to fault Kutcher for his lack of sensitivity over the incident.
“Should I have been doing those things around my bosses at that moment?” they wonder. “No, probably not. But if he or anyone in that moment actually cared about me, there would have been a way to sit down and have that conversation in a meaningful, helpful manner.
Tortorella adds, “But, you know, could have used a little bit more help there, bud.”
Hmmm. We’d say Kutcher was actually being pretty helpful when he didn’t fire Tortorella on the spot for doing illegal drugs at a work function.
Tortorella currently stars on a new as-yet-untitled spinoff of The Walking Dead, set to debut next year.
Related: Nico Tortorella makes a big announcement about his career
Cam
“Tortorella then goes on to fault Kutcher for his lack of sensitivity over the incident.
“Should I have been doing those things around my bosses at that moment?” they wonder. “No, probably not. But if he or anyone in that moment actually cared about me, there would have been a way to sit down and have that conversation in a meaningful, helpful manner.”
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So in other words, you were a mess, and your boss not only didn’t fire you but gave you some advice and yet YOU’RE playing the victim?
F-Off.
dinard38
Ikr? He’s the victim. How dare Ashton yell at him for being unprofessional. GTFOH.
And enough with this stupid “I’m non-binary. Call me they” bullsh*t. Ugh, these dumbass made up labels irks the hell out of me.
stevieboy3362
Wow. Triggered much?
ElPillo
Mz. Non-binary will now never forget what a stupid thing (s)he did. Good for Kushner.
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Brian
Wow, he manages to victimize himself even with this story. This guy really is a waste of human life, what on earth did his parents do to make him this way?
rikard_pearson
junkies spin it any way that gets them off.
Donston
I mean, it’s obvious the dude/they/them has been through some traumas and contends with a handful of “issues”. Just like many of us out here. But since initially “coming out” Nico has stayed in victim mode and stays in attention getting mode. And even if you’re a pretty white guy, that quickly becomes exhausting. Perhaps that and his/they/them’s general messiness has more to do with Nico’s struggling career than an attachment to “queerness”.
UlfRaynor
Maybe it’s the weight of his ever expanding list of self labeling and a need to constantly identify with whatever new label that’s passing around or trending on social media that he is finding cumbersome.
He has so many self identifying facets he needs drugs to help him keep it all str8 (pun intended)
Donston
I do feel that it’s easy to be overwhelmed by all your quirks, dimensions, fluidity, contractions, struggles and identities. And that can lead to unrelenting self-seriousness and narcissism and self-victimization and sometimes self-destructive instincts. That’s partly why “no labels” is a thing as well as some just refusing to take identity that seriously. That approach does take some of the social and psychological pressure off.
Grrrowler
I’ve never cared much for Ashton Kutcher but this story makes me respect him. That’s obviously the opposite of what Tortarella was going for. His attempt to spin sympathy for himself was yet another failure.
tjack47
Never heard of him, or I forgot already.
Rex Huskey
“model/actor” what the hell does that. mean or get you? tattoos? STDs? only god knows what else.
what ever happened to real jobs that help not only the worker, but also contributes to society?
Tombear
I don’t buy this non binary shit. If you look male the way you present yourself I will call you HE. If you present yourself as a woman I will address you as SHE. If anyone is offended tough shit!
Brian
I would guess that about 98% of the country feels this way.
Paco
“Should I have been doing those things around my bosses at that moment?” they wonder. “No, probably not. But if he or anyone in that moment actually cared about me, there would have been a way to sit down and have that conversation in a meaningful, helpful manner.”
Really?! He sounds like a child. He was surprised that other adults expected him to be an adult too.
I know he wants to be non gendered, but using “they” instead of a clearly singular pronoun, sounds awkward and improper.
Imjustsaying
“They”? Ah no.
OzJosh
“flushing my entire career down my nose”… Right. Clearly a well-written memoir. Oy.
Toofie
Ashton isn’t anyone’s babysitter. Own your stupid decisions in life and stop blaming everyone else.
Donston
It seems Nico has this tendency of placing all his issues on white males and seems to harbor resentment towards men in general. First, it was the ridiculous “I can’t be ‘gay’ because most of my friends are female” claim. Then it was solely blaming “white gays” for him not being fully embraced by the “queer community”, when so many people have been turned off by his quotes, his pretension and antics. Now, he’s chastising Kutcher for not being more sympathetic, as if they were anything other than co-workers. Whatever identities he wishes to embrace is they/them’s business. Whatever traumas and issues he has are his to confront. Wherever he is in the gender, romantic, sexual, affection, relationship spectrum is his thing to be okay with. And it’s okay to publicly talk about those things. But the constant victimization and self-misandry is just not cool and isn’t going to earn him/they/them any fans, especially in the industry.
Aires the Ram
1. He can’t reach down the front of his pants and figure out which sex he is.
2. He’s playing the “I’m a poor little victim” song on his fiddle.
3. He’s snorting cocaine up his nose.
It certainly sounds like he’s circling the drain to me.
Cam
The sheer desperation of this guy to seem interesting is amazing.
UlfRaynor
I would substitute the word interesting with relevant myself.
justgeo
Yeh Ashton drop dead Nico!!!!!!
Entitled PIECE of SHIT NICO!!!!!!!!!!
Ari
I used to kind of have a crush on Nico but now all I picture is s(he) maybe wanting a vagina and all done up in makeup and I just. can’t. anymore. Ick!