Winter has arrived. The days are cold. The nights are long. Enter your friend-with-benefits–also known as a f*ck buddy or FB, for those who prefer not to use the F-word in polite company.

Urban Dictionary defines a friend-with-benefits as “two friends who have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved.”

It is someone you can get away with drunk texting on Friday night from a bar after your fifth cocktail and not take hell for it. (Just make sure it’s Freddy your FB, not Freddy your boss. Yes, it has happened.)

It can also be someone who you would never date for various reasons (he rides a motorcycle, he eats crackers in bed, he’s a Republican, etc., etc.), but whom you nonetheless love getting naked with from time to time.

Just in case you needed them, here are sex, er, six reasons why everyone should have a FB.


It’s good practice

A 2011 study examined the sexual behaviors of more than 24,000 gay and bisexual guys. Researchers found that young men aged 18 to 24 didn’t score well when it came to their lovemaking abilities. Of course, this isn’t all that surprising. With age comes experience, after all. Maintaining a steady, no-strings-attached partner to practice with is a great way for those of you in the under 24 category to hone your craft. As a young gay man, you are fortunate to have plenty of time and opportunities to improve.


It encourages mentorship

On the flip side, for older gents who may not need any additional practice in the sack, being a mentor to a younger fella can be a beautiful, beautiful thing. Think about it: You’re teaching him valuable tricks of the trade which he can then employ for the rest of his life. Talk about making a real difference in the world.


It’s beneficial to your mental health

To the surprise of no gay man on earth, a study published in Social Psychology and Personality Science earlier this year found that people who engaged in regular casual sex reported lower stress levels and higher levels of happiness.


Live your fantasies

Have you always dreamed about being bound, gagged, spanked, and/or peed upon? (If so, you’re not alone. This sex study found even the wildest of fantasies aren’t nearly as uncommon as you might think.) This 2014 survey found that 47% of respondents fantasize about acting out their favorite types of kinky porn in real life. Now, you may not feel comfortable doing these “taboo” things with the future father of your children. Enter your FB. He’s the perfect person with whom to explore such activities. You know him. You trust him. And he won’t won’t take it personally if you never call him again after things go unexpectedly awry.


He can provide you with more than just sex

Got an extra ticket to the Giants game? Need a date to your friend’s art opening? Call your FB. Not only will he provide you with some hot company to make others jealous over during your outing, but he’ll give you something to look forward to afterwards.


It’s fun & convenient

Despite what your parents’ church may have tried to tell you, sex is good. And gay sex is f-ing awesome. This 2014 survey found that one in three people have a friend-with-benefits with whom they regularly hookup. That has to be proof of something. Having someone to sext for some late night hanky panky at a moments notice is fun, not to mention far more convenient than hunting for it at bars and on Grindr. ‘Nuff said.

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Graham Gremore is a columnist and contributor for Queerty and Life of the Law. Follow him on Facebook and Twitter.

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